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A Modern Parable of the Unforgiving Slave:
A bank owner wanted to settle an overdo account with a farmer who owed him several million dollars, so he called him and asked him to come to his office. As the two discussed the situation it became apparent that the farmer couldn’t even meet the monthly premium. The owner sighed and said, “Well, sir, I’m afraid we are going to have to repossess your house and car and all your equipment. We also need to liquidate all your stock to get this debt paid.”
The man pushed his chair back and dropped to his knees in tears. He plead with the owner saying, “Times are hard sir. My crop failed, and I cannot find another job. Besides, this farm is all I’ve ever known. Please be patient with me, and I will pay you everything!”
The owner looked at the man and felt compassion. He thought to himself, “This has been such a great year. I have made so much money that I can take a hit like this without really feeling it. Besides, what if I was the one in that chair?”
“I am moved to compassion by your situation,” he told the man. “I have received so many blessings…I tell you what, forget the debt. You don’t owe me a penny.” The man leaped to his feet and nearly jumped over the desk hugging the owner. “O, thank you so much!” he exclaimed. “This is incredible!” He ran out of the office rejoicing.
Now on the farmers land was a small share cropper’s house. It wasn’t worth much but an old man rented it from him. Not long after his meeting at the bank, the farmer went to his tenant’s house to collect the rent money. “Have you got your rent?” He asked.
“No.” replied his tenant. “I’m sorry. I know I said I would have it, but I lost my job, and I had to use it on food.”
“You’ve been late nearly every month for almost eight years,” the farmer screamed. “I am tired of it. Pay what you owe me now!”
The tenant begged him, “Please be patient with me, and I will get it.”
But the farmer wasn’t willing. He stormed out of the house and had the man evicted.
Now the bank owner heard about everything that had happened, so he called the farmer and asked him to come back to his office. As soon as the farmer stepped inside his office the owner hollered, “You wicked man! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. Shouldn’t you have had compassion on your tenant, as I had compassion for you? Now I will do everything I had planned to do before!”
Adapted by John Shearhart from Matthew 18:21-35
The unforgiving man assumes a judgment that not even the theologians have given to God.
Forgiven and Forgotten
In “A Forgiving God in an Unforgiving World,” Ron Lee Davis retells the true story of a priest in the Philippines, a much-loved man of God who carried the burden of a secret sin he had committed many years before. He had repented but still had no peace, no sense of God’s forgiveness.
In his parish was a woman who deeply loved God and who claimed to have visions in which she spoke with Christ and he with her. The priest, however, was skeptical. To test her he said, "The next time you speak with Christ, I want you to ask him what sin your priest committed while he was in seminary." The woman agreed.
A few days later the priest asked, "Well, did Christ visit you in your dreams?"
"Yes, he did," she replied.
"And did you ask him what sin I committed in seminary?"
"Well, what did he say?"
"He said, ’I don’t remember.’"
What God forgives, he forgets. (David H. Bolton, Anaheim, California. Leadership, Vol. 6, no. 3.)
In “A Forgiving God in an Unforgiving World”, Ron Lee Davis
retells the true story of a priest in the Philippines, a
much-loved man of God who carried the burden of a secret
sin he had committed many years before. He had repented
but still had no peace, no sense of God’s forgiveness.
In his parish was a woman who deeply loved God and who
claimed to have visions in which she spoke with Christ and he
with her. The priest, however, was skeptical. To test her he
said, “The next time you speak with Christ, I want you to ask
him what sin your priest committed while he was in
seminary.” The woman agreed. A few days later the pr...
Brian La Croix
You are probably aware that Corrie ten Boom, along with her sister and father, were sent to Ravensbruck, a Nazi concentration camp, for hiding Jews.
Her sister and father died there, but Corrie was released, due to a “clerical error.” And the Kingdom of God is better off for it.
Corrie ten Boom likened forgiveness to letting go of a bell rope. If you have ever seen a country church with a bell in the steeple, you will remember that to get the bell ringing you have to tug awhile. Once it has begun to ring, you merely maintain the momentum. As long as you keep pulling, the bell keeps ringing.
Corrie ten Boom says forgiveness is letting go of the rope. It is just that simple, but when you do so, the bell keeps ringing. Momentum is still at work. However, if you keep your hands off the rope, the bell will begin to slow and eventually stop.
It is like that with forgiveness. When you decide to forgive, the old feelings of unforgiveness may continue to assert themselves. After all, they have lots of momentum. But if you affirm your decision to forgive, that unforgiving spirit will begin to slow and will eventually be still. Forgiveness is letting go of the "rope" of retribution. (Encyclopedia of 15,000 Illustrations)
A Christian who will not relinquish a hateful, resentful attitude toward someone who has wronged him is a person who knows neither the true glory of his redeemed humanity nor the true glory of God’s gracious divinity An unforgiving Christian is a living contradiction of His new nature in Christ. It is central to the heart of God to forgive, and only the Christian who radiates forgiveness radiates true godliness (MacArthur, J. F. (1985). The MacArthur New Testament Commentary. The MacArthur New Testament Commentary (Mt 18:21). Winona Lake, IN: BMH Books).
June Hunt How to Forgive When You Don’t Feel Like It. in her book lists a few of the risks associated with a person who chooses to not forgive. The following information is from her book How to Forgive When You Don’t Feel Like It. Taken from pages 70-73:
Refusing to forgive means that God will not forgive your own sins. Jesus said, “If you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their sins, you Father will not forgive your sins.”
The risk you take for having an unforgiving heart is to suffer un-forgiveness from God for your own sins.
This is a major risk and is a very severe consequence for the choice of un-forgiveness!
Refusing to forgive a person can actually hinder or even block your own salvation.June in her book shared a real life story about a man named Bill who refused to forgive his ex-wife. This refusal to forgive her blocked his own salvation and he even knew it. When June confronted Bill for his choice of un-forgiveness and she shared the risk – he still choose not to forgive her. June warned him by saying the following:
“After hearing his litany of offenses, I explained, ‘Bill, becoming an authentic Christian means receiving Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. The Bible says, ‘Believe in (rely upon) the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved.’ ‘If He is truly your Lord, that means He is your Master, ruler, owner-to whom you yield your will to His. If He says forgive, you must be willing to forgive. If you refuse to forgive, you are still being your own ruler. You are not receiving Him as you Lord.’ He quickly responded, ‘I can’t.’ ‘Bill, God would never tell you to do something without giving you the power to do it.’ ‘I just can’t-no! I won’t.’ Bill walked away still carrying a bulging bag of bitterness…and I never saw him again” (71).
Refusing to forgive will block the blessings of God.
In Edgar Allan Poe’s story, “The Tell-Tale Heart” the main character committed murder. Unable to escape the haunting guilt of his deed, he begins to hear the heartbeat of the victim he has buried in his basement. A cold sweat covers him as he hears the beat-beat-beat of a heart, that goes on relentlessly. Ultimately the heartbeat drives the man absolutely mad, not knowing that it was not comin...
CHARLES STANLEY ON FORGIVENESS
Charles Stanley, in his book The Gift of Forgiveness, states, "A person who has an unforgiving spirit is always the real loser, much more so than the one against whom the grudge is held." He adds, "Un-forgiveness, by its very nature, prevents individuals from following through on many specifics of the Christian life and practically necessitates that they walk by the flesh rather than by the spirit"(17, 18).
He also expounds in his book on how un-forgiveness devastates the one who refuses to forgive. When we choose to not forgive in one relationship we discover that it spills into other relationships and it destroys them. When the unforgiving person stands around and waits for the other to make restitution he loses out on life because they never make any progress in their game. That sad fact is as they are standing around waiting they form fleshly patterns of behavior and incorrect thought processes. Stanley states, "Regardless of how wrong the other person may have been, refusing to forgive means reaping the corruption in life. And that corruption begins in one relationship including the relationship with God, and works its way into all the rest" (25,26).
JOHN MACARTHUR ON FORGIVENESS
John MacArthur gives us reasons why we need to forgive in his book and series, The Art of Giving and Receiving Forgiveness.
a. Un-forgiveness imprisons people in the past.
i. I always say don’t let the past dictate the future.
b. Un-forgiveness provokes bitterness.
i. The Bible calls it the root of bitterness in Hebrews 12:15.
ii. He states, ‘Bitterness is the cancer of the heart.”
• Forgiveness is the most godlike act that a person can do.
• Forgiveness affirms unmerited love.
• God promises his love to those who forgive others.
• Forgiveness prevents hate.
• Un-forgiveness results in discipline by God.
• The unforgiving will not be forgiven by God.
Jesus makes it very clear in Matthew 6:14, 15 that we have to forgive. This is the primary reason we are to forgive others because He said so.