Save Time and Preach Like Never Before. Try the new
By Rev Heather Cetrangolo
During the week I represented a man in a family law mediation. He had recently separated from his wife, and we were negotiating for him to have contact with his children. Itís hard to imagine, for those of us who havenít been through it, what it would be like to be negotiating with total strangers, about how many hours a week you are allowed to spend with your own children Ö especially if you have been in a Christian marriage.

The couple in this case were both practicing Christians Ė active members of their church. There hadnít been any violence or abuse or adultery in the marriage. The relationship had simply broken down irretrievably for no obvious or striking reason Ö although they were, as many couples are, under financial pressure and pressure from extended family Ö my client finds himself in a situation he never imagined heíd be in Ö sitting with me in the Legal Aid Dispute Resolution Centre, praying, that he will still be able to have a relationship with his kids.

As I sat in the mediation and listed to the mediator carry on about what children need after separation Ö and tolerated the discussion that canvassed everything but what God might have to say about it all Ö I wondered Ö why are we here? Why are two believers even subjecting themselves to this process? - arguing against each other before an unbeliever? (and Paul says this in 1 Cor)

This couple havenít broken the law. Why has the church palmed them off to the civil authorities? Why canít we help them internally? Or are we so ashamed when we fail, when our people divorce, that weíd rather not get involved?

I noticed that the woman who ran the mediation was watching us very intently. Watching us pray. Watching our behaviour Ö and the world does have its eyes on the church, and people watch intently to see exactly what we do when things go wrong.

And the world wants to know Ö

When your people have failed marriages, what do you do?

When you have disputes amongst yourselves, how do you resolve it?

When your people fall into sin, what do you do?

When you hit hard financial times, what do you do?

When people stop coming and your churches are empty, what do you do?

What do you do when your minister is caught having an affair? Or when your clergy get divorced?

What do you do when the police uncover widespread sexual abuse in your schools and seminaries?

What do you do when it all goes pear-shaped?

Itís not our sin or short-comings that people are most critical of Ö itís how we handle it Ö how we resolve conflict and respond to tragedy Ö

Because when the rubber hits the road, where faith really counts is when hard times hit Ö and how we respond (in those times) tells people who we really are, and what we really believe.

Todayís story from chapter 7 of the book of Joshua, is a story about just this Ö

Itís a story about things going wrong.

Itís a story that teaches us what to do and how to respond when we stuff