Communication in Marriage
Sermon shared by David Ibeleme
Summary: Understanding and Improving Communication in Marriage
Audience: General adults
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DR. DAVID IBELEME
Relationship is the position you hold in respect of another or to someone else.
The major problem in marriage is disrespect for one another, however, this primarily or mainly manifests in the form of breakdown in communication.
One can then easily say that communication is very important because it is the No. 1 problem area in marriage.
Open communication will solve most, if not all, difficult marital problems Eph. 4:29-32; Heb. 13:16.
OTHER KEY THINGS ABOUT COMMUNICATION
1. Communication is important Mt. 18:18-20
2. Communication involves talking, listening, understanding and acting or taking action.
Greek Koinonia Fellowship Intermingling Intercourse
3. You cannot communicate unless there is a common ground. Communication comes from the word communion, i.e. common union.
4. Can be verbal or non verbal Lk. 7. words, gestures (action), spirit (attitude)
5. Communication involves a sacrifice Heb. 13:16; Jam. 1:18-19.
6. Communication is a process it takes time; therefore requires patience
7. Makes one vulnerable Gen. 2:24 (realm of nakedness)
8. The primary purpose of communication is to achieve bonding or intimacy (into-me-see)
9. Hinges on the Law of giving and receiving. Communication involves opening up and sharing yourself with another person.
10. Words can make or break people Prov. 18:4ff, 21; 12:25; 15:1-4; 16:24
PROBLEMS IN COMMUNICATION
1. Fear being ignored, rejection, ridicule
4. Misunderstanding mainly as a result of poor listening skills, also poor regard or respect for one another and preconceived ideas (presumption) Ps. 19
a) What you want to say
b) What you actually said
c) What the other person heard you say
d) What the other person thinks they heard you say
e) What the other person says about what you said
f) What you think the other person said about what you said
5. Attitude not just what you say but how you say it
6. Poor Timing a word spoken in season
7. Improper Perception suspicion, previous hurts
LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION
1. Frivolous Clichι Hi, weather
2. Factual level statistics
3. Fellowship Personal judgement
4. Feeling/Emotional level suppressing your feeling or emotions; level of vulnerability especially with a feeling of insecurity
5. Freedom Total openness & transparency Gen. 2:24-25
KEYS TO IMPROVING COMMUNICATION
1. Quality decision dedication
2. Establish time to share making time for someone encourages healthy communion.
3. Take an interest in what the other person is doing Amos 3:3; Neh. 2:20
4. Find a common ground; communication = common union 1 Pet. 3:8
5. Avoid belittling remarks and Maintain a Godly purpose 1 Pet. 4:11; Eph. 4:29-32; Prov. 16:24; Rom. 12:3. Spend more time discussing your strengths not your weaknesses.
6. Maintain courtesy 1 Pet. 3:8; Prov. 10:32. Form healthy habits:
a) Avoid words like never and always when dealing with negative qualities.
b) Remember compliments and words like Im sorry, Please forgive me and Thank you.
7. Be willing to admit you are wrong, remember that you dont know it all Eph. 4:15; 1 Jn. 1:8-10
8. Keep the door of forgiveness open Eph. 4:32; Col. 3:13. You cannot communicate in strife
9. Give surprise gifts regularly Prov.
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