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Funeral Message

January 7, 2001

Welcome and Prayer

Good afternoon and thank you for coming. Weve come to share in the loss of Patricia. Weve come to weep, to feel, and to wonder in anguish.

We dont come today with any glib answers. Lets face it. This is tough stuff. Were stunned. Were hurting. We dont understand.

It might be difficult to believe, but the Bible says that its actually good for us to be here today. In Ecclesiastes 7:2, God says this:

It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting,
for death is the destiny of every person; the living should take this to heart.

In other words, God says that its better to go to a funeral than to a party. Its better to be in a cemetery than at a football game. I think there are at least three reasons for this.

First, this is a time for us to celebrate the life that God gave to Patricia. Were sad but we also want to remember Patricias uniqueness.

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When I talked to some of you at the Visitation, I learned that she had a lot of great qualities:

She loved her grandkids
She loved country music
She loved to camp
She loved her flowers shed get mad when one of the grandkids would let a ball roll through them
She loved dogs
One of her granddaughters said that she was very nice
Her husband said that she was a servant

Mike and Art are going to share some memories as well.

And so, this is a time for us to remember. Second, its a time for us to say good-bye to Patricia. As hard as it is, this service will help us begin the process of letting go.

And, third, its a time for us to take a look at our own lives. We are all going to die someday. Its a great time to ask some tough questions. Questions like, Am I ready to die? and Where will I go when my life is over? When it comes right down to it, this service is more for us who are living than for the person who has died.

And so, were going to remember, were going to say good-bye, and were going to reflect on our own lives.


Some of you are searching for answers this afternoon. I want you to know that its OK to ask those questions. Its natural to wonder why this had to happen.

Theres a story in the Bible that addresses some of the same things that most of us are feeling today. Its found in the Gospel of John, in the 11th chapter. Here we read of a funeral that involved hard questions, deep feelings, and budding hope.

The deceased is a man named Lazarus. He comes from a very close family -- among them are two sisters -- Mary and Martha. Like Patricia, he came from a good family and had a bunch of friends and one of his best friends was Jesus.

Jesus arrives four days after Lazarus dies, and as he approaches the house full of people crying, both sisters run out to Him at separate times and say:

Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.

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Thomas Williams St Paul Ame Zion Ch
July 12, 2016
,thank you this is a very good funeral message and easy for all to understand..
G lad it was helpful, Thomas!
,This is good stuff
Thanks, Jeff. I love reading your material as well!
Ken Humphries
August 13, 2014
This was so very well crafted and I believe does a great job at conveying the Gospel. Thank you very much...
Thanks. Am building off of this idea tomorrow.
Joseph Vest
April 16, 2011
Brian, thank you. This was a brilliant appraoch and one I will adopting this afternoon as I preach the funeral of a man I didn''t know who, from all indications, didn''t know our Lord.
Brian Fugleberg
January 26, 2011
Believe it or not, the funeral I am doing is for a lady named Patricia. Your message gave me some ideas. The hope of your message continues on.
Gregory Wheaton
March 22, 2009
Thanks, that was helpful. Difficult funeral of 39 yr old alcoholic, lots of kids by different women.Everybody hates everybody. Definitely different doing ministry in the 21st century So far . . . they all like me. I''d rather introduce them to Jesus . . .
Clarence Armstrong
November 14, 2006
Thank you very much. This maessage helped me during a sudden death of one of my church members.