Help for a Heartbreak

can know exactly how you hurt.

1 John 3:10 “But even if we don’t feel at ease, God is greater than our feelings, and he knows everything.” CEV

Only God can crawl into the middle of your hurt and comfort you right where you are at. Only he knows everything and only he is greater than our feelings.
We think we are greater than our feelings, we try to suppress them and bury them deep within our hearts, but they eventually come back to haunt us again later in life. That is why when we experience heartbreak the only true help is from God, he is the only way to handle heartbreak in way that will make us better people. And the first thing he says to do is:


Let yourself hurt


Ecclesiastes 3:1 & 4 “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance” NIV

Circle the words “time for everything” and underline the words “weep and mourn”

When we experience heartbreak the first thing to find “Help for a Heartbreak” is to do what comes natural, to mourn, to cry, to be sad. If God knows everything, he knows what is best for us, and he says there is a time to cry, and mourn and allow yourself to hurt from a heartbreak. If he says it then it must be a key to finding help in these tough times.

In a recent sermon, well-known pastor Bill Hybels shared this story: A friend of mine has a brain-damaged daughter. Sometimes the sadness she feels over her daughter’s condition overwhelms her, as it did recently. She wrote me this letter and gave me permission to quote from it:

". . . I can hardly bear it sometimes. My most recent wave of grief came just last year before her sixteenth birthday. As the day approached, I found myself brooding over all the things that she would never be able to do. What did I do? What I’ve learned to do again and again: I did what I believe is the only thing to do to conquer grief, and that is to embrace it. . . I cried and cried and cried, and faced the truth of my grief head on."

You see people who face their feelings and express them freely begin the journey toward hope. God made us this way; he gave us the ability to cry for a reason. It is not an accident that humans have this ability, but rather a way for us to deal with our heartbreak.
When Jesus Christ, God’s own Son was on this earth 2,000 years ago showing us perfectly “How to Deal with the Way We Feel” he even cried and mourned when he had a heartbreak.

John 11:33 & 35 “Jesus saw her weeping, and he saw how the people with her were weeping also; his heart was touched, and he was deeply moved… Jesus wept.” TEV

People today seem to think that letting yourself hurt from heartbreak is not acceptable, but our best example of what to do did the exact opposite! Jesus cried and his heart was touch, that means he had a heartbreak and the first thing he did in response was to cry and allow himself to hurt. Many of you in this room tonight have some hidden pain and sorrow in your life, you have suppressed that hurt and not allowed yourself to mourn and cry as you should. As a result you might be struggling with some things in your life right now, maybe it is a bad temper, or some bad habit that you have picked up. But don’t allow a heartbreak to be a negative force in your life anymore, allow yourself to hurt and grieve and mourn. Being heartbroken