How to Deal With Past Hurts in Your Family
Sermon shared by Darrell Stetler Ii
Summary: The first step to having love and harmony in your family is to get "past your past." In other words you’ve got to be able to forgive and move on. Here are 5 steps to forgiveness. . . *HANDOUT INCLUDED*
Audience: General adults
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Living With Your Family Without Losing Your Mind
Let me take a little survey: How many of you have had conflict with members of your family?
Families are wonderful. . . but they can really be a pain to live with. Words get said, people get hurt and before you know it, you feel like the comedian who said:
“Who can ever forget Winston Churchill’s immortal words: "We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills." It sounds exactly like our family vacation.” (Robert Orben)
Even when really do love the other person, we try to show it in a way that they don’t understand, and people get hurt:
“To prove his love for her, he swam the deepest river, crossed the widest desert and climbed the highest mountain. She divorced him. He was never home.” (Rose Sands, The Saturday Evening Post. )
If you’re a teen here, you might know how this guys feels:
So this month, I’m preaching a series called “How to Live With Your Family Without Losing Your Mind”
How to Overcome Past Hurts in Your Family
There’s not a single one of us here that has not been hurt at sometime by someone in our family. It might be something very small:
- You were the brunt of a family joke.
- You were criticized.
It might be something from the past:
- You’ve been made to feel inferior your whole life.
- Your parents were abusive.
- Your parents loved their drugs more than they loved you.
It might be something from the present:
- He can’t let you be right.
- She can’t let you forget.
- He won’t take responsibility.
- He stays out late, forsaking his family.
- She spends without thinking of everyone else.
It might be something very serious:
- One partner had an affair.
- One family member has been abusive.
It seems like with all the blended family relationships these days (divorces, remarriages, stepchildren, his/hers/ours children) that there’s even more opportunity for hurt and bitterness!
Here’s the statement you’ve got to remember:
The only way to get over past hurts is to forgive.
"This really hurt me," I explained. "I’m having trouble forgiving the person who said those mean things. Do you think I should forgive that person?" I asked the children. Immediately, my six-year-old daughter, Alicia, raised her hand. "Yes, you should," she said without hesitation. "But why? The person hurt my feelings," I responded.
To which Alicia wisely answered, "Because you’re married to her."
SOURCE: Glenn E. Schaeffer, Christian Reader ("Kids of the Kingdom" September/October 1997)
3 things I want you to believe:
1. No matter how much there is to forgive, there is hope for your family.
Luke 7:41-43 Then Jesus told him this story: “A man loaned money to two people--$5,000 to one and $500 to the other. But neither of them could
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