How We Talk
Part 4 – Words of Encouragement
May 2, 2010
NOTE: THE ME/WE/GOD/YOU/WE FORMAT IS FROM ANDY STANLEY'S BOOK, "COMMUNICATING FOR A CHANGE."
Me: This is the last message in a series about how we speak.
We started off looking at how what we say is a reflection of what’s in our heart, because Jesus says our mouth speaks from the overflow of our heart.
Then we talked about how to speak the truth in love. It’s not enough to just throw the truth in someone’s face – we need to do it in a way that communicates our love for them so they’ll hear it and receive it better.
Last week we talked about getting rid of “potty-mouth.” And it wasn’t about cussing, it was about things that I believe are worse and far more dangerous than cussing, and that was slander, gossip, and lying.
Today, as you can tell by title on your note-taking guide, is about speaking words of encouragement.
Some of the best memories of my life are times when someone took me aside, looked me in the eyes, and told me something encouraging.
Someone saw something in me that caused them to take a moment and let me know what it is they saw.
Other times I’d get a letter or a phone call. Just the other day I got an e-mail from someone I’ve never met but who has been using my messages in his ministry at a rescue mission in Oregon.
We: Everyone likes to hear good things about themselves from time to time.
Everyone likes to know they’re not a loser in someone’s eyes.
Everyone likes to get an atta-boy or atta-girl once in a while. Just make sure you’re giving the right one of those to the right person, okay?
I can’t think of single person who hates hearing someone say something nice to them once in a while.
Even the most modest person enjoys that. They just won’t brag about it and maybe try to deflect the praise.
But they like it – just like anybody else.
God: I want to just run through a number of Scriptures that point to the importance and power of words of encouragement.
We won’t spend a lot of time on these, but I want you to see how Scripture addresses this.
And by the way, you might find one or two of these that you might want to write down and memorize this week.
Proverbs 10:21 (NLT) –
21 The words of the godly encourage many.
People who have a solid walk with Jesus have the potential to positively influence a lot of people. I don’t think enough godly people realize that.
Proverbs 12:25 (NLT) –
25 Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up.
I think all of us can relate to that one, right? You’ve been down and someone says just the right thing to bring you up. It’s a great thing, isn’t it?
Or maybe you’ve been the one to say that thing that brought someone else up. That’s a pretty awesome thing, too.
Proverbs 16:21 –
The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.
You want to help someone learn something or get better at something, especially your kids?