Dating: God Do Not Want Us to be Unequal Yoke
2 Corinthian 6:14-15
Clarence E. Weaver Sr
Introduction
2 Corinthian 6:14-15
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?
What advantages of having a passive-aggressive person in your life? Let's see, they are negative, spiteful, and envious; they procrastinates, moody, and disagrees with everything you say. But the advantages of having a Optimistic - aggressive person in your life may bring you happiness and success, they will build you up, they will bring out the best in you and you will be stress free.
Watch out! You're going to have problems because sooner or later, someone will come into your life that will cause a romantic spark with you, and then there will be trouble. If you're not united in the spirit, you're headed for hard times.
If you are looking for that romantic person that you have been thinking about spending the rest of your life with; consider dating first. The purpose of dating will help you determine if that person will become who you spend the rest of your life with. We will identify some of the various mistakes people make in choosing someone to date or for a lifetime relationship.
Prepare to Date
For instance, compare your date like you are going on your first job interview. Make sure you dress in the appropriate attire for the date and be prepared to asked and answer the hard questions In addition, you should have prepared question to asked the person wide variety of questions that range from common personal questions to very challenging life questions relevant to the person you are seeking in your life. Remember that the whole point of dating exercise is for you to get to know the person and determine if he/she has a vision and goals you are looking for, and if they are someone they would like to live the rest of your life with.
Many times people get involved in a relationship being unprepared. Too many people lose focus of the material possession a person owns and the outer appearance, rather than preparing to asked the tough questions that may occur in life. In other words we should not make our decisions based on what is pleasing to our senses (sensuality). Sometimes the situations are such a catastrophe that one often wonders “how in the world did they get themselves into such a mess?” The sad part is that often these messes are the result of their own decisions and actions. Many times when life is a mess, it is our own creation! However, wouldn’t it be much better to avoid the mess to begin with? So we are going to talk about making the right choices by following God’s way and not our own.
God’s Purpose
Our choices should not be based on what will generate the most income or enable us to gain the most possessions. We should not make our decisions on purely selfish motives, which means considering what we want but not what God wants.
Christians should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers because your spirit will become you will be drained spiritually.
Christian is not to enter into any formal arrangement any kind of binding partnership, and covenant or contract or tie with those who are in unbelief.
Why? Because such a relationship will prove damaging to your spiritual life. You see an unequal yoke is an unbalanced relationship – in fact the term “yoke” here may also refer to the beam of a balance. There are three diametrically opposing forces that you can identify on your date will operates in a wide range of unequal yoke from light and darkness, to Christ and Satan, and God and idols. Marriage should offer partners the opportunity to advance spiritually not just materially. Marriage not only a way to avoid loneliness, but it also offers the opportunity to learn valuable spiritual lessons of love, loyalty, commitment, compassion, self-control, and self-discipline.
Adam did not know he was alone. It was God that said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." – Genesis 2:18
God took the three things out of Adam and created Eve. In Genesis Chapter when Adam woke up he saw everything that he desired and was compatible to in Eve until he shouted with a praise report:
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”- Genesis 2:23-25
There are three basic traits that a man or woman seeks in a mate:
Spiritual Beauty: It is real beauty because it's in the heart and soul of the person. You attain this inner beauty through God, through knowing that there is a higher power who gives you all the strength and confidence you need to live your best life. When you are living your best life, you are at peace, confident, happy and you will radiate an inner glow that one will naturally be attracted too. When you feel this good, you will automatically take care of yourself and your health which will benefit your overall physical appearance.
Intellect Beauty: This is creative personality that attracts you for their ability to adapt to almost any situation and to make do with whatever is at hand to reach their goals and helping you grow in areas where you are weak.
Physical Beauty: It is what I like to call false beauty because it's subjective. This type of beauty can be bought through plastic surgery, cosmetics, diet pills, supplements, clothes, food, you name it. This type of beauty is based on resources and if you have the money then you have access to these resources that will aid in your physical beauty. Yes, I know that physical attractiveness is important and appealing to the senses because we are a superficial society. And like my mother use to say, “Who wants to wake up with a monster.”
Conclusion
We really have to face the fact that living in a superficial world a lot more attention is given to looks than spirituality and intelligence. An attractive person can be ugly yet incredibly spiritual and intelligent. An attractive person may be beautiful and spiritual, but totally bipolar. An intelligent person may be beautiful, but a deceitful personality. There is a man and woman out there for each one of us, but it is up to each one of us to find the three piece of the puzzle that fit in our lives. All three traits must fit. If it doesn’t fit, don’t force it!
Be prepared! You have been given the warning; now it is time that you give account to the word you have read. I pray that you pray, think, and prepare yourself before you date.
