; A women who’s husband had died years earlier had stopped by her Pastors office one day. She had been crying inside for 2 long painful years. As she talked, she related everything that had happened up to the time of her husband’s death --- everything! She knew every detail. Finally she opened her purse and took out a sheet of paper and read to him the words of her Dr. He had explained to her the cause of her husband’s death. After she had read the note and after prayer and tears, the pastor said, "I want you to do something for me. I want you to tear up that piece of paper and throw it away. It’s time you stopped rehearsing and nursing your hurt!" Later on as she was leaving church one day she simply said to him "Thanks".