By Josh Reich on Jul 19, 2015
It's hard to do but incredibly helpful to your church. Your marriage is unique because of who you are and who your wife is.
I recently finished a series on the Song of Solomon, and after talking to a number of pastors about it, many of them expressed a desire to not preach on marriage and relationships and sex. Let’s not forget the fear pastors have of talking about sex.
I think there are two things pastors must do if they are going to preach on marriage and relationships:
1. Get your marriage in order. I can’t overemphasize this. I realize if you are a regular reader of this blog you have heard this before, but this is so important. The longer you are a pastor at a church, the marriages of the church will resemble yours. If you want to preach on something, you must have something to share.
I know that working on your marriage is hard work; it is hard to make sure you are pouring time into your marriage. It is easy for a pastor to let his marriage fall apart because most people in your church have no idea if your marriage is going well. If your marriage is not what it should be, do some work on it so you have something to share when you preach on marriage.
2. Give your church the principles of marriage, not your marriage. Many times when a pastor preaches on marriage, he gives what he does based off the Bible and can give the impression that how the pastor does marriage is the only way to do it.
I get it. It is easy to say, “Based on Ephesians 5 or Titus 2 or 1 Peter 3, my wife and I do this,” and make it sound like the way you do it is the only way to do it. Is your way right? Yes. Is it the only way to do it? The only biblical way to do it? No. Take what the Bible says, the principles that it gives, and help your church apply those principles, not apply your marriage.
This is hard to do but incredibly helpful to your church. Your marriage is unique because of who you are and who your wife is. Keep that truth in mind when you preach on marriage.
Share the story of how you got to where you are, how you have applied the things in the Bible on marriage. Make sure you make those the hard gospel truths you preach, not what you do based on those.
Related Preaching Articles
By Brian Croft on May 5, 2017
There are all kinds of different sermons a preacher can preach, but the most helpful for a pastor to feed his people with week after week is expository sermons.
By Joe Hoagland on Apr 22, 2017
What if I told you there is one main thing you can improve to make people want to come back time and time again.
By Lane Sebring on Feb 24, 2017
I want to show you why I believe the often neglected step of rehearsing the sermon is essential to great sermon delivery.
By Hal Seed on Feb 21, 2017
Each week, the most important time for all of us who preach or teach for a living is our preparation time.
By Brandon Kelley on Jan 23, 2017
Timothy Keller seems to have the pulse of our present culture in a way that I’ve not encountered before.