The importance of the personal over the legal is seen in the fact that God wants us to be personally involved with our children, and not just legally fulfill our obligations to them. When our kids were younger, I remember Elizabeth telling me once before that when I am home I am home in body, but not in my mind. That hurt. What she was saying was that I was home, but I my mind was still on church. So I had to learn to be present at home in my mind as well as in my body.