It’s frustrating because we often don’t know what to do. It’s almost like the rule are constantly changing. Anybody remember the comic strip, Calvin and Hobbes? It was about a kid and how in his imagination his stuffed tiger, Hobbes, comes to life and they have great fun together. One of their games is a game that they call Calvinball. There are no set rules except that on each turn each person gets to make a new rule. Contantly changing. Constantly in motion. Constantly in flux. Parenting like that is very frustrating because you just don’t know what to do.