JUDGING BY COMPARISON
How many people in this room would like to lose 20 pounds? How many people in this room would like to be taller? Do you know someone who sees themselves as an old alley cat while others see them as a prize Persian? Can you think of someone who thinks they are a prize poodle and they are really just a mangy mutt? How many of you are happy with yourself just the way you are?
When I was a kid, I thought I must surely be adopted, and one day my REAL parents would come and rescue me from the crazy family in which I found myself. It's like our son Christopher who told his mother one day that he didn't want to be Christopher Carr anymore; he wanted to be Christopher truck.
We judge ourselves and each other by comparison. What we use as a yardstick to make our comparisons depends on what we value.