Summary: What a wife is and does determines more in a marriage than any other factor. She is the star at the wedding, and must go on being the star, for when she falls the sky is dark indeed.
Some little girls were having a great time playing wedding.
They had a couple of bridesmaids, a bride and a maid of
honor. The mother of one of the girls observed that the
groom was conspicuous by his absence, and she asked,
"What about the groom?" One child quickly replied, "We
don't need a groom. This is just a small wedding."
There is many a wedding where the groom feels left out,
and many where he wishes he was left out, but the fact is,
there is no way to get a wedding so small that you do not
need a groom. The smallest wedding on record took place
without any attendants or guests, and there was no
preacher, but even Eve had a groom. When you have cut all
the corners possible, and you are down to the bare minimum
you still have a groom. The groom is not in limelight like the
bride, and his role is very minimal. He gets only a fraction
of the published publicity, which is not much more than the
ushers get, but he is no mere appendage which can be cut off
if necessary. You can eliminate everyone else in the list
below the bride, but the groom must remain.
God in His all wise providence ordained that every wedding
must have a groom. It is important to man's ego
that it is so, for if he was not a necessity he might very well
be ignored all together, and the fantasy of the little girls
might become fact. It is said with as much truth as humor
that some Hollywood brides keep the bouquets and throw
the groom away. But why all this rambling about the
necessity of a groom? It is because he does play second
fiddle when it comes to the wedding, and the fact is, he plays
a secondary role in the marriage.
The wife plays the leading role in marriage even though
she is to be submissive to her husband. When the biblical
view of marriage properly understood, no woman can ever
complain that she is treated unfairly. Nowhere is a woman's
role as wife and mother so exalted as it is in the Bible. The
Bible is almost like the newspaper. It magnifies and glorifies
the bride and wife, and just mentions the husband.
Proverbs 31 gives the greatest description in literature of the
role of an ideal wife and mother. Nowhere in the Bible is
there such a description of the ideal husband and father.
Peter was a husband, and he had a great opportunity to
write at length about husbands, but in our text of 7 verses of
marriage counseling he devotes 6 of them to the wife, and
only 1 to the husband. It looks like typical coverage for the
husband, and possibly 6 to 1 is even better than what he gets
in the paper. But the question is, why? When the groom is
just as essential as the bride, why does he get so much
attention? It is not only because he is less beautiful than the
bride, but also because his role is less difficult and demanding
than that of the bride. Generally speaking it is
much more difficult to be a good wife than to be a good
husband. It takes so many more virtues, and that is why the
Bible and books on marriage are filled with so much more
advice for wives than for husbands. One of the reasons is
that wives read more on improving their marriage than
husbands do. Both Peter and Paul deal with the wife before
they do the husband, and they say more about her role.
What a wife is and does determines more in a marriage
than any other factor. She is the star at the wedding, and
must go on being the star, for when she falls the sky is dark
indeed. Don't ever fall for the folly that the biblical role of
women makes her second class. If women's lib wants
freedom from the biblical role for women, then they want to
be free to be less and not more, for the biblical role makes
her the primary factor in marriage and the home. It is true
that man is dominant in business, government, war, and
politics, but when it comes to the home and marriage the
wife is the leader.
The analogies of Scripture illustrate what I am saying.
Jesus is pictured as the groom, and the church is the bride.
It is not hard for the groom to be loving and loyal to his
bride, but the bride is constantly struggling to be faithful,
and to keep unspotted from the world. The battles of the
bride is what the Christian life is all about. The brides side