Summary: The concluding part of reasons why many marry wrongly.
21 LIVING IN DISOBEDIENCE:
“behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams”.
If you are living in perpetual disobedience God will not be compelled to guide you. Until you obey the last instruction from heaven, you should not expect to receive any further instruction. Meanwhile, if there is no instruction there will be no direction, and if there is no direction, wrong marriage is inevitable.
22 EVIL ASSOCIATION:
“be not deceived; evil communications corrupt good manner”.
Your companion can influence you into a wrong relationship. To marry according to God’s plan therefore, you must watch the kind of friends you move with.
A wise man once said “bad company is a disease, he who lies with dogs shall rise with lies”
You have a choice. You can decide on the kind of friend you want to move with.
Remember, friendship is not by force but by choice. Refuse any attempt by anyone to “fix” you up or organize a wife for you.
You do not imprison yourself because of your past experience.
That you have been involved in immoral acts with someone and he/she is now threatening to tell everyone what you have done together is not enough reason to be wrongly married to him.
“If you don’t marry me l’ll tell everyone what you have done and I will expose you” that cheap blackmail.
Understand that there is no saint without a past and there is no sinner without a future. To sink yourself into any unwholesome relationship because of your past is unwise.
The fact that you made the mistake of getting pregnant for somebody when you were still an unbeliever and the issue of weeding has not come up between the two of you, does not means you should be coerced into marriage. If you will be patient and settled, you can still get God’s best for your life.
Try to discern what God is putting across into your mind and it shall be well.
25 IMMORAL DRESSING
Immoral dressing does not attract, rather it repels.
It has been said that like attract like. When you are the type that will always expose your body definitely people coming to you cannot be the serious type.
Your dressing determines your company. When you always dress to kill, you will end up marrying a killer.
…….Let not your nakedness be discovered.
When material things are over exposed, they lose value. When you always dress like an harlot definitely you will end up marring an adulterer.
26 MARRING OUT OF PITY
To marry someone because you pity him/her and believe that, that is the only way you can help him is wrong. Marriage is not a pity ride, it is a life and death issue.
27 WAY TO ESCAPE
Never get into marriage as a means of escaping family pressure, financial responsibility and social insult. Marriage is honorable when you enter into it at the right time. Settle down what the mind of God is concerning your life for now, then go ahead and take the necessary steps.
In the name of Jesus you will laugh.
28 CASTING LOT
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the lord
It is the duty of every man to find his own wife, in the process of finding, to go to the pastor with about five names, so that he can choose the best for you is very wrong.
You must pray through and allow the spirit of God to lead you to the right person.
29 MISLEADING PASTORAL INFLUENCE
Understand that just as your parent doesn’t have the power to choose for you, so also is your pastor.
No pastor should dictate to you, who should be your wife/ husband. You can be counseled, he can advice you, but you have the final say.
Look, you must hearken to pastoral counseling because they are in the best position to correct you when you are going astray, but your pastor doesn’t have the power to choose for you.
30 PASSION FOR SEX
If your major drive for marriage is sex, and sex only, you will end up marrying the available and not the responsible.
With sex as your only focus, it will only take six month after wedding before you realize that marriage is no fantasy.
It is my sincere prayer that you will not marry wrongly