Summary: How fathers can build a firm foundation of character and positive relationships for their children?
“A Father’s Firm Foundation”
How do fathers build a firm foundation of character and positive relationships for their children?
1. Loving Kindness
“... a gentle tongue can break a bone”
In other words dads – there is great strength in gentleness.
Do you show the same courtesy towards your kids that you expect from them?
Can you praise your kids without adding anything negative – like, “Great job with the dishes tonight – pity your room’s such a mess”?
How about your discipline – is it firm AND loving – or just firm? Do you discipline your children in front of others?
Do you hug your kids regularly (If you don’t they will find someone who will!!)
Are you quick to go to their aid when there’s a genuine need?
Dad’s, your words and acts of loving-kindness today will build confidence in your sons and daughters. They will have the confidence to attempt anything if they know your love, acceptance and gentle protection of them is assured no matter what.
Dad’s when was the last time you laughed with your children - instead of at them?
There was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother. There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth. "For whom am I toiling," he asked, "and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment?" This too is meaningless-- a miserable business! (Ecclesiastes 4:8)
Dad’s if you’re always work, always discipline, always orders, always serious – then your kids are missing something very important. And you may well be missing the enjoyment of watching your kids grow up – and so you may end up a very lonely man.
Playtime is a big part of being a child and unless you can get into it dad’s, you’re cut right out of a huge part of your child’s life. Play sport with them. Discover which leisure things you like to do together and get into it.
Dad’s it’s no secret that most teachers – at least at Primary school level – are women. And for the most part I’m sure they’re doing a fantastic job. But even our Education Department recognises that more men are needed as teachers in our primary schools. What does this tell us? It tells us that it’s best for children to get a balanced learning input from both mum and dad. (It’s not always possible – but it’s best).
And the single most important lesson a father can teach his child – is why they are alive. Listen to these words from Ephesians 6:4 .....
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).
A father that teaches his child to follow the Lord will save them from living the frustration of a wasted life.
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6).
Dad, you and your wife can teach your kids how things should would work - - or you can abdicate your responsibility and let your kids learn about life from their friends, the TV/internet and schools (That’s a frightening thought).
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19)