Summary: Father’s who allow anger to take control of their minds will stop expressing love to those closest to them. Why, because the emotion of uncontrolled anger turns to rage and drives out the emotion and presence of love.
“A Father’s Love Vs a Father’s Rage”
Opening Video Illustration: BluefishTV: “A father’s love”
THEY NEED A FATHER - Children need a Father’s Love
... “almost 75 percent of American children living in fatherless households will experience poverty before the age of eleven, compared to only 20 percent of those raised by two parents. Children living in homes where fathers are absent are far more likely to be expelled from or drop out of school, develop emotional or behavioral problems, commit suicide, and fall victim to child abuse or neglect. The males are also far more likely to become violent criminals. As a matter of fact, men who grew up without dads currently represent 70 percent of the prison population serving long-term sentences.”
SOURCE: Michael G. Moriarty, The Perfect 10: The Blessings of Following God’s Commandments in a Post Modern World, p. 113
These sad statistics cry to us of the importance of a “Father’s Love.”
Our world had set out to trivialize a “Father’s love.” The feminist say the kids don’t need it, the liberals claim we don’t need it. But the truth is we all crave hunger for a father’s love.
Thesis: Father’s who allow anger to take control of their minds will stop expressing love to those closest to them. Why, because the emotion of uncontrolled anger turns to rage and drives out the emotion and presence of love.
My own story: “A Father’s Rage”
My dad was an absentee father the majority of the time. He worked 12 hours a day to provide financially for us as kids. He did teach me the value of hard work. But far too often when he was around we experienced a angry father, an enraged father. He had a temper that would explode at the drop of pin. We all walked on egg shells around him especially my mom. He was like Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde. He could transform quickly into an very ugly individual who was brutal, verbally, physically abusive. I would say my mom suffered the most from his abusive ways. She tried very hard to shield us from his wrath and anger. When he came home we were either in bed or leaving the house because we wanted nothing to do with his anger.
I recall a time in my life when I was 11 and my dad was once again beating up my mother and I stepped in to stop the brutality. He had at previous times beaten my mom so bad that she needed hospital treatment. I yelled at him from the top of the stairs to leave her alone. I remember his look of rage at me for confronting him. He pounced up the stairs toward me like a wild ape. He grabbed me by my throat, picked me up and threw me down the hall into the wall. I suffered the wrath of his anger that day but I did stop him from beating up my mom again. I still recall the fear!
He left that night and the next day my mom was talking to my uncle as she cried about his brutality to me and his words to me. That night as he hurled me down the hall he said something that cut my heart wide open. He screamed “You are not my son you ________________!” He reiterated in his fit of rage that I did not belong to him and I was not his child because my mother was a _______________! He told me she had an affair and I belonged to other ___________________!” The physical pain was less traumatic than the scorching words from him that night! I recall crying with my mom that day and my uncle Jim telling me over the phone that he would be my father!