Summary: Men’s Day Celebration message presented to a predominately African American congregation.
A Good Man Is Hard to Find
Text: Jeremiah 5:1
Run ye to and fro through the streets of Jerusalem, and see now, and know, and seek in the broad places thereof, if ye can find a man, if there be any that executeth judgment, that seeketh the truth; and I will pardon it.
My brothers and sisters, the subject for today, “A Good Man Is Hard to Find” has become the buzz phrase and national anthem of women all over the land. It does not matter whether the woman is black, white, or Hispanic. It does not matter whether the woman is a high school drop out, has a high school diploma, or a doctorate degree from Harvard University. It does not matter whether the woman is on a government assistance program or whether she is financially independent. It does not matter if the woman is cultured and radiating with pure sophistication, or whether she’s a gangsta chick with no class at all. You will hear women all across the land declare the same thing, time and time again, that “a good man is hard to find.” Have I got a witness?
Most of the time when I’ve heard this complaint from women, I used to take it as a form of male-bashing that is common among women, especially those who have been hurt by men – whether it was by a husband, a boyfriend, or a lover; or by a so-called father who didn’t live up to the expectations that every little girl has of a daddy. I truly believed that all of the good man is hard to find stuff was over-exaggerated and that most women were just looking in all the wrong places.
You see, you can’t expect to find a good man hanging out on the street corners late at night in the midst of illegal activities. You can’t assume that you’ll find a good man at the club on a Saturday night, while you’re shaking your laffy taffy…. doing the rump shaker, and getting your groove on. Most of the good men are already asleep, getting ready for church the next morning. You can’t expect to find a good man if you’re sitting in your girlfriend’s living room night after night talking about how bad men are. You can’t expect to find a good man on your job or in somebody else’s house when you know that all of the men there are already married. You can’t even expect to find a good man in the church when all you’re looking for is a man that goes to church and not a man that’s saved by grace and filled with the Holy Ghost. So I thought that women were looking in all of the wrong places.
But after reading the results of a recent study conducted by scholars from Harvard, Princeton, Columbia, and other prestigious universities, what I found is that women, especially black women may not be too far from the truth.
The fact of the matter is that a “good” man has become a rare commodity in today’s society. Men we once considered “good” have shattered what were once our commonplace thoughts of them. We no longer consider preachers good men collectively, because too many preachers have brought shame to the ministry. Too many men of God have proven their godlessness by doing ungodly things while holding a godly title.