Summary: Husbands can make themselves irresistible to their wives by following this one simple verse. You can win a wife to Christ this way also!
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Men, how many of us still look like we did when we first caught, attracted our spouses?
I know that we look in the mirror and think we still look great. Not all of us do.
What makes husband attractive to his wife? The physical appearance sometimes gets the relationship started, but is that where it ends?
What is it that will make a man irresistible to his wife? What can we do to keep our wives happy with us? What about pleasing God also!
I have been told a lot of money can make a man more attractive. What about going to the gym all the time?
I think there is more to it than money and looks. At least I hope so. Looks are great, but if we are missing some other items, the looks will only go so far. God has called the husband to treat his wife in a special way!
Last week we looked at the responsibilities a Christian wife has toward her husband, and what she can do to help win a lost husband to Christ.
Today we will shift our focus over to the husband. In the passage for the wife, Peter wrote 6 verses, for the man there is just one. I pondered this, then I come to the conclusion that us men can only handle a little at a time.
Peter has told us how to deal with unsaved masters/employers, how wives can win their unsaved husbands. Now we turn to how a husband can win over his unsaved wife.
In the context of the time, women were more or less the property of the husband.
The husband held all the power. If his wife was not a Christian, he could demand that his wife become a Christian, but Peter is going to share a better way.
As with last week, this message seems a bit focused on the husband, but I feel there is something for everyone in this passage. We can learn some things that will help us to better deal with people and see how we can better reach lost people.
For the single man, I hope you will start to get a feel for how you should treat your future wife and for the single woman, that you will see how a man should treat you.
Let us read 1 Peter 3:7 together today as we look to see what God says concerning what a husband can do in order to win his wife to Jesus. In this we will also see how we can be irresistible to our wives!
1 Peter 3:7(ESV) 7Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you£ of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
I. A man who displays an understanding heart will be irresistible.
Throughout this whole section, Peter has been telling us how we should keep our behavior excellent. Peter has spoken to us concerning our behavior among the lost.
If Christians are to maintain an excellent testimony in this unbelieving world, they must live blamelessly in the four major arenas of God-ordained social interaction that Peter addresses: the society (1 Pet. 2:13-17), the workplace (1 Pet. 2:18-25), the family (1 Pet. 3:1-7), and the church (1 Pet. 3:8-9).
Now we see the phrase “in the same way.”
This specifically is written to Christian husbands whose wives are not yet saved. In each of the other scenarios, we see the issue of yielding our will for the benefit of winning other people.
Now it is time for the husband to step up to the plate and do what is best for his unsaved wife. The husband is called to exhibit winsome behavior toward his wife.
As we look at this, we are all called to do that which will help us reach others for Jesus, even it means we will have to give up some of our personal rights at times.
The husband is told to live with their wives in an understanding way.
This phrase literally says to “live together according to knowledge.”
The “knowledge” here can refer to a few areas. One of them calls us to live with our wives with and knowledge of the biblical view on marriage.
Last week when we were looking at the wives response to the husband, it is easy for the husband to go caveman and think he is the dictator of the house.
Ephesians 5:25(ESV) 25Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
Jesus laid His life down for the church.
Husbands can make it much easier on the wife to do what she is called to do if she knows he will never take advantage of her, that he loves her so much that he would lay his life down for her.