Summary: Steps to becoming the woman of your husband’s dreams.
HOW TO BECOME THE WOMAN OF YOUR HUSBAND’S DREAMS
Ladies, this morning I would like to share with you, how to become the woman of your husband’s dreams, how to protect your marriage from the “Other Woman.” Now, for the past 2 weeks I have about marriage. The first week in this series we talked about the foundation for marriage. Last week I talked to the men about their responsibilities and I believe I was brutally honest. This morning I would like to share with you what God’s Word says about being a godly lady, about how to become the woman of your husbands’ dreams. Please turn with me to Ephesians chapter 5 and verse 22. Ephesians chapter 5 and verse 22, as this morning we see together, God’s plan for a lady. Ephesians chapter 5 and beginning in verse 22.
- Read Ephesians 5:22-24 –
REASONS TO BECOME THE WOMAN OF YOUR HUSBAND’S DREAMS
Now some of you might ask, “Why should I go to the trouble of working to please my husband? Why should I work to strive to be the woman of his dreams? We get along OK, we’re married now and I know he’s not going anywhere. Why should I go the extra mile to please him?”
I believe there are 4 primary reasons why it is to your advantage to strive to become the wife God intended you to be. There are 4 primary reasons why you should work to become the woman of your husband’s dreams.
Number 1, you should strive to become the woman of your husband’s dreams because it pleases God.
1. IT PLEASES GOD – Ephesians 5:21 says, “. . . and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.” And again in verse 22 he says, “Wives be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” These verses mean that serving your husband, pleasing your husband, is not just for your husband’s sake, but it is also for the Lord. Paul says in Corinthians 10, “Whether ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do it as unto the Lord.” Every thing we do is done for God’s sake, to please Him.
So the first reason you should seek to please your husband is because in doing so you also please God. That is a good enough reason for any Christian person to decide on any course of action, because it pleases God. But, there are other reasons to put forth the extra effort as well. Not only will your striving to please your husband please God, but also, by living with your husband as a helpmeet, as a godly lady following God’s plan for the home, you may also gain your husband’s salvation.
2. YOU MAY GAIN HIS SALVATION – 1 Peter 3:1-2 says, “In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.” Now many people try many different things to try and get people they love and care about to accept Christ. Parents teach their children, husbands pray for their wives, and many people try many different things, but one of the best ways to win someone is through your example, by loving them to Christ.
Bull Bramlett said that after his wife accepted Christ, she tried everything in the world she could think of to try and get him to become a Christian as well. One evening he staggered home drunk and passed out in the bed next to his wife. The next morning when he went into the bathroom to shave, his wife had written a note for him on the bathroom mirror, in lipstick. It said, “God’s gonna get you.” He asked, “Can you imagine seeing something like that on your mirror in the morning when you’re already struggling from a hangover?”
He went to work, and everyday she packed his lunch. He went to pull out his lunch and she had left him a note in the bag. It said, “I love you but God’s gonna get you.” He said, “He’s not gonna get me, I’m gonna get drunk.” So after work he went to the bar and got drunk. When he left, he went out to the car, and there, pasted on the steering wheel of his car was a big note, it said, “I still love you, but God’s gonna get you.”
Peter says, instead of writing repent on your husband’s beer can, instead of beating him over the head with your Bible like a modern version of Aunt Ester, instead, live life as a godly wife, love and take care of your husband. Peter says that some may be won without you even saying a word, being convicted by your example.