Summary: This is sermon is about biblical steps on overcoming bitterness.
Series: Where Is God When It really Hurts
Topic: Changing Your Bitter Life into A Better Life
Offenses and pain are bound to happen especially in our relationship with people. These things will be faced by us even if we try to avoid them because we are living with people who are imperfect like us. Our response to this reality can either break us or make us which can also affect the lives of others. Jesus Christ even warned us that things like these will happen but He showed us how to deal with it in a way that will give us freedom and joy. Are you willing to follow His way of facing your hurts? Are you willing to let Him direct your course of action?
Truths We Need To Know . . .
• Life is full of hurts and it always will be! As long as you live, people are going to hurt you, offend you and disappoint you. But you don’t need to be the "victim" of their offenses. You can learn to rise above life’s disappointments .
• We are either motivated by fear and bitterness or love in dealing with our relationships especially when we face conflicts. Love builds bridges but fear and bitterness builds walls when pain is involve.
• What we are today is primarily how we have responded to circumstances in our past. We can’t control, change, or stop people’s choices and reactions towards us but we can control ours.
• Forgiveness is God’s only way for us to be healed from our hurts!
Releasing Forgiveness Is Possible When I….
A. Honestly admit that I am are hurting .
• Revealing your feelings is the beginning 0f healing.
• Most people cant release forgiveness because they deny that the hurt exists. However they don’t realize that the first step to releasing forgiveness is acknowledging that we have been hurt by the offense.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE BITTER
No one wants to admit they are bitter. Sometimes everyone else can tell but us. Let me ask you to be honest with yourself and answer a few basic questions:
1. Does it irritate you when people don’t agree with you?
2. Do you think you are usually right and others are usually wrong?
3. Do you find yourself giving more criticisms than compliments?
4. Are you short with people?
5. Do you ask people "loaded" questions just to irritate them?
6. Is it difficult to talk to someone who has hurt you in the past without constantly bringing it up again?
7. Do your conversations tend to turn into arguments?
8. Do you feel disappointed, mistreated or betrayed?
9. Do you feel like God has let you down?
10. Do these kind of questions make you defensive?
B. Continually refresh myself with God’s love and forgiveness.
You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. ( Colossians 3:13 )
• People who will not forgive are those who have either not receive the forgiveness of God or have forgotten God’s forgiveness in their lives.
• They have have fogotten that they themselves are imperfect and capable of hurting God and others.