Summary: This message offers practical, biblical guidelines that apply to people of all ages who are in the dating process.
Choosing a Mate
The Five Most Important Decisions of Life:
1) Your relationship with God.
2) Vocational choice.
3) Where you go to school.
4) Where you will live.
5) Who you will marry.
Decision #1 is the most important decision by far. The other four decisions may vary in their order depending on the individual and their circumstances.
I believe those five decisions will affect your happiness in life more than any other decisions you will ever make. Today, I want to talk to you about choosing a mate.
I hope that this message will be a tool for parents whose children are still unmarried. But this isn’t a message just for parents and it is not just for singles.
I hope it is a message that all of us can use, as God gives us opportunity, to be able to positively influence not only our children, but our grandchildren, our friends, and others who are single as they make the important choice of a lifelong marriage partner.
What I want to share with you today are general principles. There are exceptions to everything and I’m sure you will think of exceptions to some of the things I will say. But I hope you will try to focus on the principle, not on the exception.
When it comes to the question of how to choose a mate, I tell everyone that will be fine if they choose a mate just like my wife, Laurie. Marrying her was a great choice.
As I look back, there are three yeses that have dramatically affected my life.
1) Saying yes to Jesus Christ as my personal Savior.
2) Saying yes to God’s call into the ministry.
3) Saying yes to Laurie when she asked me to marry her.
Those three yeses have changed my life forever!
Today we are going to talk about entering the most basic relationship we have on planet earth; the relationship between a husband and wife.
I am sure there will be some who will feel like you did not choose well in the past. Please understand that this morning’s message is not meant to brow-beat anyone or cause you to feel inferior or embarrassed in any way. I’m certainly not here to criticize or condemn anyone for past decisions. Hopefully you will see that this message is forward thinking and it is about decisions that will be made in the future.
First, I want to speak a word to 1. Parents: Parents have specific responsibilities when it comes to your child’s choice of a mate.
In Genesis 24, we see how Abraham, a parent, took specific responsibility for the choice of a wife for his son, Isaac. He asks his servant to go and find a wife for his son.
Genesis 24:1-4 (NLT)
1 Abraham was now a very old man, and the LORD had blessed him in every way.
2 One day Abraham said to the man in charge of his household, who was his oldest servant,
3 "Swear by the LORD, the God of heaven and earth, that you will not let my son marry one of these local Canaanite women.
4 Go instead to my homeland, to my relatives, and find a wife there for my son Isaac."
Abraham wanted Isaac to marry within the family. This was a common and acceptable practice at this point in history. There was the added advantage of avoiding intermarriage with some of Abraham’s pagan neighbors.