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Summary: Understanding Compatibility in Marriage and the Spirit-Controlled Temperament. GOD INTENDED MARRIAGE TO BE A LIFE-LONG UNION BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE, A MAN AND HIS WIFE. Incompatibility, a frequently alleged ground for divorce has no legitimate status before

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Compiled by: Herman Abrahams (Pastor), Cornerstone Faith Ministries, P.O. Box 740, Westridge 7802, Rep. of South Africa.

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Series: Successful Family

UNDERSTANDING COMPATIBILITY

A. GOD INTENDED MARRIAGE TO BE A LIFE-LONG UNION BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE, A MAN AND HIS WIFE.

Incompatibility, a frequently alleged ground for divorce has no legitimate status before God. Yet the issue of COMPATIBILITY has become so important that we would do well to ask: What is compatibility in marriage? Is it really important? How can it be determined? Is it frozen and unchangeable? What can Christian couples do about becoming compatible?

B. IS COMPATIBILITY IMPORTANT?

Of course compatibility is important to a marriage. However, compatibility is not something which is natural to two people; Christian couples, with the help of the Holy Spirit, will have to work hard at improving their compatibility.

C. HOW CAN COMPATIBILITY BE DETERMINED?

Christian couples can develop oneness by working hard at their marriage and through the help of the Holy Spirit and the application of the Word of God in their lives.

Philippians 2:1-2 “If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.” (NIV)

Philippians 2:5 “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.” (KJV)

C.1 While all the studies show that people of the same economic, social and educational level seem to get along better, such external compatibility is not absolutely essential because it is not basic. Christians should marry only “in the Lord”. Believers cannot disobey God by marrying unbelievers and expect their marriage to go well (2 Cor. 6:14ff). There is no other factor which is really essential for compatibility. Race, age, social status, everything else is secondary, although there may be desirable qualities within the one basic requirement of Scripture. Yet the scripture itself makes no such distinctions.

C.2 The background which two people bring into a marriage may be quite distinct, These backgrounds have contributed to the personalities which each marriage partner has developed through memory, relationships with parents, friends and others and the response patterns each partner has developed. If both the man and the woman have developed biblical habits of response to life’s problems, regardless of what their backgrounds may have been, they have more basic compatibility than two persons who had nearly identical cultural backgrounds but were not Christians. Because they will know how to sit down and work out their differences, they will take time and learn how to use the diversity of their backgrounds to enrich their marriage. That means that Christian counsellors never tell counsellees, “you can’t make it because you are incompatible; you would be better apart than together.” If both parties are Christians, or if they become Christians, they can make a success of their marriage if they are willing to work hard at it according to biblical principles by the means of grace.


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Ricardo De La Rosa

commented on Sep 9, 2006

I enjoyed it very much and found it very helpfull, Finaly somthing with depth that I can share my couples. God bless and may the Lord continue to give you wisdom and understading. Pastor Rick

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