Summary: Jesus not just a Wonderful Comforter, but He also a Confronter. That’s not because He hates us, but because He loves us. Bare in your mind, that Jesus never is the cause or source of a confrontation. What in us is the source of conflict in our own live
The Source of Conflict
By: Donny Tatimu
These verses can be one of the most difficult verses in the Bible to explain. I know that many of you will agree with me. Let see this verses in its proper context:
34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. 35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. 36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. 37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. 39 He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. 40 He that receiveth you receiveth me, and he that receiveth me receiveth him that sent me.
26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
27 And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.
“In this context the word "hate" does not carry the meaning it normally has in English usage, but seems to be used in a Hebraic sense. In Hebrew "hate" can also mean, "love less" or "put in second place." For example, Genesis 29:31 (quickview)  states that Leah was "hated," but the context indicates that Leah was not unloved but rather loved less than Jacob’s other wife Rachel. Note that the preceding verse specifically says that Jacob loved Rachel more than Leah.
A second illustration of this particular Hebraic shade of meaning of the word "hate" is found in Deuteronomy 21:15 (quickview) : "If a man has two wives, one loved and the other hated…." Here too, the context shows that the "hated" wife is only second in affection and not really hated in the English sense of the word. Likewise in Jesus’ statement, he was saying that whoever did not love him more than his own family or even his own self could not be his disciple. “
Every man in this world, deep in their heart, want to be love, want to be appreciate by someone else – at least by the people who closed to them. – When this not happen, and they will feel jealous, angry and it will rise a conflict in their life.
Jesus not just a Great Comforter for our soul, but He also can be a Confronter. Don’t misunderstand me, I don’t mean Jesus is the source of the conflict or the confrontation. Jesus confronts something in us that is not right. He talked about “love” (Matt. 10:37), which in 1 John 2:5 (quickview) , talks about do what is righteousness/truth. There is something in our heart that is not right before God’s eyes, and without confrontation we can’t see it clearly.