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Summary: It is time to stop fighting in your marriage and start fighting for your marriage.

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Conflict Resolution

Family Series

Introduction: testimonies about marriage

Somebody’s gotta tell the truth.

Statistics about marriage

Irreconcilable difference – leading trend for divorce

Divorce

mans idea

not happy example

were the martyrs happy?

God will not contradict His word.

Christ thoughts

Scriptural divorce

Don’t buy the lie of Irreconcilable difference

Your marriage is not hopeless.

You may feel that your marriage is dead and lifeless.

God breathes life into man. Jesus conquered death.

It is time to stop fighting in your marriage and start fighting for your marriage.

Irreconcilable Differences are caused by a lack of understanding about conflict and communication.

Most of us have little or no conflict resolution skills. We don’t really know how to resolve fights. That reminds me of a husband who said, that after 50 years of marriage, he and his wife have had only one fight. When asked what his secret was he said, “The fight started on our honeymoon and I’m still waiting for it to end!”

That’s sad.

Today I want to teach a little bit about how to have a fair fight. Because in any marriage or really any relationship, there comes a time that you will disagree:

Turn with me to:

Eph

Not chapter 5 but chapter 4

4:25 – 5:2

Healthy Conflict Guidelines

1. Be truthful v. 25

a. “The Day America Told the Truth,” by James Patterson,

91% of Americans lie routinely about matters they consider trivial

1 out of 3 lie about important matters

86% lie on a regular basis to their parents

75% lie to their friends

7 out of 10 married people lie to their spouses

b. Lying

i. disrupts unity

ii. creating conflicts

iii. annihilate trust

iv. destroys relationships

c. You can not build a relationship if honesty, integrity, and truth are not valued.

i. you will never have a marriage of oneness if you and your spouse don’t value authenticity

ii. If you cant be real, you are living a lie

d. Put off falsehoods and speak the truth, you won’t lose real friends and your marriage will not survive if you continue to lie

2. Get Mad, but don’t sin. V. 26

a. Learn not to bottle up your anger

i. Health problems

1. added stress

b. Learn not to explode in your anger

i. Much damage is done

1. fence post illustration

c. Learn to control your anger.

i. Don’t scar up your marriage but deal with the issues

d. Resolve your issues quickly

i. Don’t go to bed angry.

ii. If we nurse our anger, we will give Satan an opportunity to divide us.

3. Play Nice v. 29

a. Watch the words that come from your mouth

i. that it may benefit those who listen

1. The power of life and death…

2. be careful using words like Never or Always

a. never take out the trash

b. always forget to pay bills

c. ect.

i. These can be true statements

ii. Don’t define your spouse in the negative.

ii. See your spouse the way God does

iii. Build up your spouse

iv. Prophecy to your spouse

b. Ask yourself, will this build up my spouse before you say it.

4. Praise the Lord v.30 & 31

a. It catches the devil off guard!

i. It confuses the demons that are sparing your fight along.

1. whispering in your ear: hit her, stab him etc.


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