Summary: This sermon deals with the God-given responsibilites of fathers.
Dad! Be Responsible!
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
2"Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise:
3"that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth."
4And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
Well, it’s Fathers Day!
Have you ever wondered how Fathers Day got started?
THE IDEA FOR CREATING A DAY for children to honor their fathers
began in Spokane, Washington. A woman by the name of Sonora Smart
Dodd thought of the idea for Fathers Day while listening to a Mothers Day
sermon in 1909. Having been raised by her father, after her mother died,
Sonora wanted her father to know how special he was to her. It was her
father that made all the parental sacrifices and was, in the eyes of his
daughter, a courageous, selfless, and loving man. Her father was born in
June, so she chose to hold the first Fathers Day celebration in Spokane,
Washington on the 19th of June, 1910. In 1924 President Calvin Coolidge
proclaimed the third Sunday in June as Fathers Day. Roses are the
Fathers Day flowers: red to be worn for a living father and white if the father
One time a little boy was asked to define Fathers Day
and he said,
“Its just like Mothers Day, only you don’t spend as much on the present.”
A survey on one of my favorite Preacher websites
had the following results:
40% said they don’t expect a gift for Fathers Day.
38% said just a simple card or gift would be fine.
18% said they would like to be surprised by their gift.
3% said Father’s Day gifts are a big deal to them.
Today’s story is about Robert Gleason. Robert is a 27 year old man who has a wife Barbara and a nine year old son named Jimmy. They live in a small Midwest community. You could say that Robert is a typical man. He has a job at a factory and works hard to make a living for his family. He likes to go deer hunting and fishing. He spends most of his free time tinkering with his pickup truck and watching sports on TV.
Let’s get back to our Bible text for today!
Paul has been inspired by the Holy Spirit
to write a letter to the Christians in Ephesus.
He closes this letter by giving instructions for the family.
Fathers should encourage their children.
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath…
To whom is this command addressed?
It is given directly and explicitly to fathers.
Our text does not say, you parents provoke not your children to wrath, but you fathers…
This responsibility does not exclude mothers.
Fathers and mothers are to obey God
1 Corinthians 11:3 says:
But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
The father is singled out because he is the head of wife.
Therefore, he is the head of the home.
Therefore the father is responsible for training of the children.
Unfortunately, today fathers drop the ball in this matter.
They leave the responsibility to the mothers.
God’s word commands the fathers "And you fathers...
This principle is also taught in Colossians 3:18-21
18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. 20 Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
This instruction is not to parents, but to fathers!
In his encouragement to the Thessalonians Christians, Paul says:
1 Thes. 2:11
as you know how we exhorted, and comforted, and charged every one of you, as a father does his own children,
A father is responsible to give instruction to each child.
How many fathers today are the heads of their house?
How many are administering the discipline to their children?
Does that mean the mothers have no responsibility
in disciplining the children?
NO! The husband and wife are one!
The mother’s responsibility is to fully co-operate
in the administration of discipline,
but in subjection to the rules set forth by the father as their head.
I’ve seen mothers contradict their husbands…
In correcting their children!
You wives may disagree with your husband’s rules and orders!
But you should NOT let your kids know it!
In the world, fathers usually fall into 2 extremes of child-raising:
1. Discipline without love (child abuse)