Summary: If marriages are the highest of all human relationships, why do so many fall apart? What can we do to prevent this kind of disaster from happening to us? (Based on a book by Bob Russell)
David & Bathsheba: Preserving the Marriage
(Sixth in the series Marriage by the Book)
Introduction: David was a great man, distinguishing himself as a man of God, a composer of psalms, and a leader of men. Yet his record was not without blemish. David had problems with marriage. David was so involved with his work that he did not know who lived next store. Note 2 Sam. 11. One night while strolling on his balcony, he noticed a beautiful woman next door preparing for a bath. He did not look away. When David asked who she was, his servant informed her she was married (i.e., off limits) to Uriah, one of David’s soldiers. Many times when tempted, God provides a warning of some kind. We too often can forget the consequences of our sin and how many will be affected by it. But David had his way. Although David was a married man, Bathsheba was brought to him, and they committed adultery. She became pregnant. David tried to cover it up. Finally, he arranged for the murder of Uriah to cover his sin and married Bathsheba. The baby born to her eventually died.
Proposition: If marriages are the highest of all human relationships, why do so many fall apart? What can we do to prevent this kind of disaster from happening to us?
1. Why some marriages break down
Why do many people not take marriage vows seriously?
David had been spiritually drifting away for some time.
1 Sam. 18:20- 21: Saul arranged marriage to daughter Michal to trap & kill David
1 Sam. 19:11-12: Michal helped David escape
1 Sam. 19:13: Idols were in David’s home
2 Sam. 6:16-22: Resentment boiled over to sarcasm & unkindness.
God’s reaction to David’s reaction:
God did not say, “David, you have committed adultery with Bathsheba, but since you & Michal have had a rough time, I understand.”
Instead, he sent Nathan the prophet who boldly declared, “You’ve stolen your neighbor’s wife; you’ve despised the Word of the Lord; you’ve committed that which is evil in God’s eyes.”
Adultery is the ultimate offence to marriage.
Hebrews 13:4 (quickview) . the union between husband & wife is sacred & exclusive in God’s sight. Although there are a number of sins that are destructive to marriage, sexual sin severs sacred union.
2. Why some marriages thrive
1. Be fearful of the consequences
Fear can be a healthy deterrent to sin.
Rom. 6:23: “The wages of sin is _______, but the gift of God is eternal ______ in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
People who have unrealistic views of marriage most often have unrealistic views of divorce.
2. Be aware of vulnerability
Nobody is exempt. David, a man after God’s own heart, succumbed to temptation after reveling in his success.
Build the right hedges of protection around you. (Refer to excerpt from "Hedges" by Jerry Jenkins)
"One of the major causes of marital breakups in the Christian community is the lack of protective hedges that the spouse should plant around their marriage. Because of the new openness in society to interaction between the sexes, I have placed the following hedges aound my marriage: