Summary: This Fathers Day sermon shows us the many failures of David as a father.

David Was A Horrible Father

2 Samuel 3:2-5

[2] Sons were born to David in Hebron: His firstborn was Amnon by Ahinoam the Jezreelitess;

[3] his second, Chileab, by Abigail the widow of Nabal the Carmelite; the third, Absalom the son of Maacah, the daughter of Talmai, king of Geshur; [4] the fourth, Adonijah the son of Haggith; the fifth, Shephatiah the son of Abital;

[5] and the sixth, Ithream, by David's wife Eglah. These were born to David in Hebron.

This is Father's Day, a day to honor fathers.

For the past several Sundays

we've been looking at the life of David.

Today we look at what happened to his children,

and see if we can learn from him how to be a bad father.

You see, even though King David was a great man of God,

even though God anointed him and used him,

even though he was "a man after God's own heart"

he was an absolutely horrible father.

Our Bible passage today tells us some of David's children:

Amnon, Chileab, Absalom, Adonijah, Shephatiah, and Ithream.

Each and every one of these first 6 sons had a different mother.

Some men fantasize about how great it would be

to have more than one wife.

But, those fantasies aren't very realistic.

All they are thinking about is the sexual part,

not the rest.

I think it would be awfully difficult

to keep more than one woman happy.

Now, it was common in ancient times

for a king to have several wives, because of political marriages.

These marriages were a common way for making a treaty.

However, the Old Testament forbids having more than 1 wife

King David broke two commandments by doing this.

The first commandment he broke

was the one about not having foreign wives.

God didn't want the people of Israel to marry foreigners

so that they would not be drawn away to false gods.

The second commandment that he broke

says that a king is not to multiply wives to himself.

Like many people today,

he only obeyed those commandments he wanted to obey.

Point #1. Married men must not lust after other women.

David had a problem with lust.

He just wasn't satisfied with his first wife Michal.

Following the death of Saul, David was anointed King of Judah

and the House of Saul and the House of David

declare war against one another.

The Bible tells us the war lasted a long time.

Long enough for 6 sons to be born to David

but they were born to 6 different wives.

The best known of these wives is Bathsheba.

2 Samuel 11:2-5 Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king's house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold. [3] So David sent and inquired about the woman. And someone said, "Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?" [4] Then David sent messengers, and took her; and she came to him, and he lay with her, for she was cleansed from her impurity; and she returned to her house. [5] And the woman conceived; so she sent and told David, and said, "I am with child."

Even though King David had at least 6 wives at this point in time,

he got involved in an affair with a married woman

and also the wife of a friend.

Uriah was one of the "mighty men" of King David.


A lot of married men go looking for other women.

They leave their home and their family

in search of someone else to be with.

This is the ultimate act of being a bad father.

Someone who impregnates a woman,

and then isn't responsible enough

to be there for her and the children isn't a man.

He's an animal.

Being a man is more than being able to have sex.

It's being responsible.

It's protecting his family and providing for them.

Maybe the first time David saw Bath-Sheba was accidental.

But, that doesn't mean that he had to keep looking.

But, he decided to keep looking

increasing his lust for her,

and ending up in adultery,

and an unwanted pregnancy.

As if the sin of the affair wasn't enough,

David tried to cover it up.

He has Bathsheba's husband, Uriah, sent home from the war,

hoping that if he has sex with his wife,

everyone will think the baby is his.

Well, to make a long story short,

Uriah doesn't sleep with his wife.

Having tried unsuccessfully to cover up his sins,

David feels himself forced into more drastic action.

He arranges for Uriah to be killed in the war.

So, David multiplied his sin.

Maybe, if King David had thought about the consequences,

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