Summary: One of the greatest gifts you could ever give your children is to teach them biblical obedience through godly, loving discipline. Let’s examine three aspects of this.
David’s Undisciplined Son
1. David had a son named Adonijah who decided that he would take advantage of his dad’s failing health and old age. He began to plot how he could make himself king and put himself on the throne. vs. 5-7
• This young man had no self-control (couldn’t wait, wanted what he wanted now).
• He was full of pride (he exalted himself).
• He was full of selfish rebellion (“I will be king”).
• He was deceitful (used others in his plan of rebellion).
2. David was a man of God. Why was his son this way? The answer is found in verse 6. Adonijah lacked proper, biblical discipline. He had an indulgent father that wouldn’t say “no.” He allowed his son to do whatever he wanted to do.
3. Rebellious children can destroy the harmony of a home. They can turn the home into a war zone. Many parents have robbed their home of joy and harmony by failing to exercise proper, biblical discipline. Illustration: A screaming child in Wal-Mart.
4. Ephesians 2:3 teaches that we are all born with a sinful nature. This is why the untrained heart of every child reflects self-centeredness and a lack of self-control.
5. One of the greatest gifts you could ever give your children is to teach them biblical obedience through godly, loving discipline. Let’s examine three aspects of this.
First, let’s consider the motive of discipline.
1. The motive is not to simply make life easier on the parents. It is far deeper. You are shaping a heart for life.
2. Did you know there is something within the heart of every child that a parent needs to reach and drive out? Proverbs 22:15
• “Foolishness” is defined as “deceptiveness, trickery and deceit.” It is a variant of the word “folly,” which means “emptiness; thick headedness; senselessness; disobedience.”
3. Scripturally, a fool is an adult whose parents never trained and disciplined the foolishness out of him. This is the job of every parent. Through godly discipline, you drive out foolishness and replace it with wisdom, and thereby transform the heart.
Second, let’s consider the method of discipline.
1. When a child is young and is in those crucial developmental years, the Bible teaches the use of corporal discipline. Proverbs 22:15, 13:24, 29:15
2. Child abuse of any kind is wicked and disgusting. It is sick, perverted, and wrong. But God has created an appropriate place for corporeal discipline to occur – a place in which no bones can be broken and no damage can be done.
• The child will begin to associate stinging discomfort with rebellion, sin, and disobedience.
• Never is this to be done in anger or when the parent is out of control.
3. But, when loving, caring parents who are in total control exercise corporal discipline, it results in driving away the foolishness from that child. People may object and say, “But if you do that, it will result in the child being violent.” The Bible does not teach this, nor does American history bear that out!