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American Idols - The Progression of an Idol
Exodus 20:4-5 (New Living Translation)
4"Do not make idols of any kind, whether in the shape of birds or animals or fish. 5You must never worship or bow down to them, for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God who will not share your affection with any other god!
Colossians 3:5 (Contemporary English Version)
5Don’t be controlled by your body. Kill every desire for the wrong kind of sex. Don’t be immoral or indecent or have evil thoughts. Don’t be greedy, which is the same as worshiping idols.
Idolatry - Greed leads to conflict and division.
Current Stats of Conflict in the Church.
• Born again Christians in the U.S. file 4 to 8 million lawsuits every year, often against other Christians, costing nearly $40 billion dollars.
• There are approximately 19,000 major, scarring church conflicts in the U.S. each year (an average of 50 per day).
• 35% of born again Christians who have been married have gone through a divorce, the same percentage as our general population.
• 1,500 pastors leave their assignments every month in the U.S. because of conflict, burnout, or moral failure, costing the church at least $684 million each year.
Fights! Arguments, pain, rejection,
1. Conflict Starts with Innocent Unmet Desire. Immoral desires should be obviously destructive.
Cross Roads – Led by our Spirit or Flesh
Romans 8:5-8 (English Standard Version)
5For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. 6To set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. 7For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot. 8Those who are in the flesh cannot please God.
2. I Demand - Flesh
It no longer is a desire to us – it becomes a need that we deserve and must have at any cost in order to be happy and fulfilled.
An idol is anything apart from God that we depend on to be happy, fulfilled, or secure.
“It is often not what we want that is the problem, but that we want it too much.”
1 Corinthians 10:23 (New Life Version)
23We are allowed to do anything, but not everything is good for us to do. We are allowed to do anything, but not all things help us grow strong as Christians.
3. I Judge
We judge those that are standing in our way!
• Our Spouse
• The Pastor – or - The people
• Our Boss
• A friend
As Dave Powlison writes:
We judge others—criticize, nit-pick, nag, attack, condemn— because we literally play God. This is heinous. [The Bible says]"There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and to destroy; but who are you to judge your neighbor?" Who are you when you judge?
James 3:13-18 (English Standard Version)
13Who is wise (foolish) and understanding (don’t understand) among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom.
Wisdom is not measured by degrees but by deeds. It is not intellectual but behavioral. It is not a matter of acquiring truth in lectures but of applying truth to life. Being led by the Spirit is the true mark of Christian Wisdom.