Summary: The Bible’s Answer to difficult people.

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Dealing With Difficult People

Genesis 16:1-10

Jesus reduced the ten commandments down to just two. We are love God with all of our heart, and our neighbor as ourselves. It isn’t so hard to love a God who is good, and values us so highly. However, when we begin to love others as we love ourselves it is not quite so easy. Some people are just plumb hard to love. They aren’t nearly as good as God, and they sure don’t value us high enough to die for us. It probably doesn’t take you very long to think of a person in your life who is difficult to love, but it may surprise you to know how much the Bible has to say about difficult relationships. Let’s look in on some difficult people in the Bible. If ever there was a family exhibiting difficult behavior, it is the family of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.

(Read Genesis 16:1-10)


Which one of the three is this passage, would be the difficult one? A case could be made for all three of them. Abram, Sari, and Hagar all exhibited difficult behavior at some point in the passage, but it would not be fair to label them as difficult people. Labeling people as difficult too quickly may be inaccurate, and doesn’t allow people a chance to change. It may also cause us to write them off, and we may miss the opportunity to know a wonderful person.

King David would not be considered a difficult person by most people, but Uriah’s family would complain that he exhibited difficult behavior at least for a year. He stole Uriah’s wife Bathsheba, and had Uriah killed. This is why we refer to difficult behavior rather than difficult people most of the time.


In this passage Sari was difficult to Hagar, and Hagar was difficult to Sari in return. Lot was Abram’s nephew who came with him to Canaan. However, when they grew too large and their herdsmen began to fight they had to separate. Abram generously offered Lot the first choice of land, and Lot selfishly chose the best for himself. Abram was kind enough to bring him along, and Lot in a selfish move was difficult to dear uncle Abram. Fill out the Jerk Checklist I handed out, and see if you may even be difficult sometime. You know we often see the other person as the difficult one. However, if you know a lot of difficult people you are probably a difficult person to get along with yourself.


(the way you see it)

I am sure Sari thought Hagar was the difficult one, and not herself. On the other hand I am Hagar thought Sari was the difficult one, and she was only the innocent victim. Two people can experience the same event, but they may experience it differently. "Ibis is because we view everything through the filter of our past experiences, and we chose the stories we tell ourselves about the facts of our lives.

In my family growing up I thought my sister was favored because she was the youngest, but she said she thought I was always favored by mom and dad. I guess our parents must have done a good job of being fair, because both of us thought the other was favored. You see we both experienced the same events, but we perceived them differently. This is why even Jesus could be viewed by some as a difficult person. He was perfect, but I’m sure the moneychangers in the temple he drove out thought he was very difficult.

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