Summary: What is the Bible's guidance when someone's spouse dies? How should they grieve and how should people react around them? Is remarriage acceptable? This sermon deals with those questions
Death, Grief And Remarriage
Sarah lived one hundred and twenty-seven years; these were the years of the life of Sarah.
 So Sarah died in Kirjath Arba (that is, Hebron) in the land of Canaan, and Abraham came to mourn for Sarah and to weep for her.
I enjoy watching mystery programs on television.
Law & Order and Dateline are two of my favorites.
Whenever a murder is committed,
police begin to suspect the husband or wife of the murder victim
if that husband or wife doesn’t show outward signs of grief.
If they don’t see the victim’s spouse crying profusely
and showing signs of deep grief
that person becomes the prime suspect.
I work at a funeral home.
One person asks me how I can stand
to be around all that crying and sorrow.
Actually, I don’t see much of that.
When my Dad and Mom died, I didn’t cry.
I didn’t cry when my wife Pat died
until about a month after her death.
We all handle grief differently.
Some people can hide their grief.
However, every one of us has to deal with grief
at some point in time or the other.
We grieve over the loss of loved ones.
Recovering from the loss of a loved one or family member
is a slow, painful and lengthy process.
Researchers from the Medical College of Virginia, in a study
concluded that the death of a close relative
is the single biggest contributor to depression.
Today’s Bible passage in Genesis chapter 21
is about the death of Abraham’s wife Sarah.
She was his constant companion and longtime wife.
Abraham and Sarah loved each other.
They were very devoted to each other.
However, Sarah died and Abraham was now without his wife
who died of old age.
How did this man of great faith in God feel?
What would life be like without Sarah?
Where would he find the strength to go on?
What could he do to honor her life?
The loss of a loved one is not the end of the world.
What should we do when a loved one passes away?
How should we respond to others in grief?
Point #1. When Your Spouse Dies, Weep Alone Patiently
Sarah lived one hundred and twenty-seven years; these were the years of the life of Sarah.  So Sarah died in Kirjath Arba (that is, Hebron) in the land of Canaan, and Abraham came to mourn for Sarah and to weep for her.
Abraham mourned and wept over Sarah’s death.
Weeping is a personal response to grief,
but what is mourning?
In Abraham’s day, it was a tradition to tear your clothes,
beat your breasts and pull out your hair.
The first mourning recorded in the Bible
is Abraham’s mourning over the loss of his wife Sarah.
The Bible tells us how long Abraham mourned,
Genesis 50:10 says at Jacob’s death
his children mourned for 7 days.
Many Christians struggle for the right words
to say to people who are grieving.
The most common words include these:
“I’m sure there is a purpose behind all this”.
“Time will heal all things”
“She’s in a better place now. Her pain and suffering is over”.
The worst advice I’ve heard is,
“Jesus needed her more than you do.”
How someone handles grief is a personal matter.
Let the one who has suffered the loss take the lead.
If he feels like talking, encourage him to talk.
If he prefers to sit in silence,
don’t try to come up with something to say.
A hug or a squeeze of the hand
conveys more than a thousand words.
Weeping is natural, healthy and necessary,
but some people prefer to show grief privately.
Women cry much more often than men.
A survey showed only 4% of women say they don’t cry at all,
but 45% of men say they don’t cry at all.
For those who cry, 85% of women and 73% of men
reported they feel better after crying.
Tears help people who are grieving.
They get back on their feet quicker
and get on with their life faster after a good cry.
Jesus did not hold back his tears on 2 occasions,
once over the death of Lazarus
and another over the city of Jerusalem.
Point #2. When Your Spouse Dies, Get On With Your Life Patiently.
Look again at Genesis chapter 23.
Genesis 23:12-16 Then Abraham bowed himself down before the people of the land;  and he spoke to Ephron in the hearing of the people of the land, saying, "If you will give it, please hear me. I will give you money for the field; take it from me and I will bury my dead there."  And Ephron answered Abraham, saying to him,  "My lord, listen to me; the land is worth four hundred shekels of silver. What is that between you and me? So bury your dead."  And Abraham listened to Ephron; and Abraham weighed out the silver for Ephron which he had named in the hearing of the sons of Heth, four hundred shekels of silver, currency of the merchants.