Summary: We must defeat our selfish nature to allow Christ to take control. Where does it begin and how big of a problem is it?
Scripture Reading: James 3:13-17 Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom. 14But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. 15This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. 17But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.
Ralph L. Woods: An ambitious farmer, unhappy about the yield of his crops, heard of a highly recommended new seed corn. He bought some and produced a crop that was so abundant his astonished neighbors asked him to sell them a portion of the new seed. But the farmer, afraid that he would lose a profitable competitive advantage, refused.
The second year the new seed did not produce as good a crop, and when the third-year crop was still worse it dawned upon the farmer that his prize corn was being pollinated by the inferior grade of corn from his neighbors’ fields.
C.R. Gibson, Wellsprings of Wisdom.
To be a real disciple of Christ we must give up our self-dominated and enslaved selves. Why is this so difficult?!
The self-dominated person believes all things can and must be done according to their will because the self-enslaved person believes themselves to be always right.
If you are always right do you see any reason to change?
The problem is the self-dominated person isn’t always right and when reality destroys these fantasies, control of their world is lost. When this happens most of the time they fall into self-hatred or self-pity. These states can bring about depression and despair, which can lead to self-destructive behavior, the worst of which is suicide.
KING ME STARTS AT BIRTH
Babies cry or wet and they get attention and are served. This happens over and over each day. Every time we respond to their needs we assert their authority. But this is part of the design and is necessary.
This self-centered position must change or miserable consequences will result.
We are NOT the center of the world, that position belongs to God alone, the sooner we learn this the better off we are.
· Exodus 20:3 "You shall have no other gods before me.
This includes ourselves!
THE CONTEST OF WILLS BEGINS
Between the ages of two and six children are asking, “Who is number one? They are trying to establish if they are divine or human.
The struggle against authority involves a contest of wills, if children win this contest in reality they lose. Each triumph over authority more securely entrenches the “I am King or god” fantasy. The child will become Spoiled, Selfish, Arrogant, Destructive.
It is absolutely essential that children lose these clashes with authority. Many parents fail here because they believe their children will hate them if they do not give them everything they want or let them do what they want. The opposite is true, children need and want limits.