Summary: Fathers Day
FATHERING UNTO MATURITY
1. Responsibility for children, is seen as belonging to the mother.
Fathers spend about a third as much time as mothers in providing direct child care.
A review of research in 186 societies found that fathers have "regular, close relationships" with their children during infancy in only 2 per cent of these societies.
In some parts of West Africa, contact between men and very young children is seen as taboo.
A Jamaican study found that a man’s involvement with his children fell significantly when his children lived elsewhere, particularly if they lived in the home of another man.
A study in Chile found that by age six, about 40 per cent of children born to unmarried adolescent couples are unacknowledged and abandoned by their fathers.
Economic support from fathers also declines when marriages fail.
In Argentina, only 36 per cent of divorced fathers make regular child support payments.
In the United States and Malaysia, 40 and 50 per cent of divorced fathers, respectively, pay no child support at all.
In Japan, 75 per cent of divorced fathers have never paid child support.
In Barbados, a study of eight-year-old children born to adolescent mothers found that those whose fathers were involved in their upbringing did much better in school than those whose fathers were not.
2. The importance of Fathers have been greatly underestimated in America.
The statistics are sobering:
40 percent of boys are being raised without their biological fathers, according to Newsweek magazine.
85 percent of people in prison grew up without a father.
70 percent of school dropouts and 70 percent of teen suicides came from fatherless homes.
Kids without fathers are more likely to live in poverty; to suffer emotional, health and social problems; to become teenage parents; and to smoke, drink and take drugs, according to "Experiments in Living: The Fatherless Family" by Rebecca O’Neill.
3. God is our real father.
Although my children belong to me biologically I am not their real father.
a. I am only fostering them through this life temporarily until they go home.
b. If you were babysitting someones children, you would take every effort to return them to their parents unscathed in any fashion.
c. I can only father them to maturity.
God can father us to maturity.
I. Our Father educates us.
Bok’s Law: If you think education is expensive, try ignorance.
A. God has revealed the rule of his house.
1. We all have certain general rules in our homes.
a. NO FIGHTING. When the girls start to fight we often ask, “Is this helpful, or hurtful.
b. We learn the rules very quickly especially if they are enforced.
During the Victorian era, one how-to-do-it-right manual was Lady Gough’s Book of Etiquette. In this volume, putting books by male authors next to books by female authors was forbidden - unless the authors were married.
2. God revealed his rules as mankind matured.
a. In the age of the patriarchs, God instructed the Fathers to answer for their families.