Summary: Your family is worth fighting for, so learn how to fight.
￼Fighting for Your Family
Open: Welcome to Restoration Fellowship Church and our series “Fighting for Your Family”!
We are glad you’re here! We started this series three weeks ago. Today is the final message in the series. Let’s review what we’ve learned already...
REVIEW from Last Three Weeks
￼￼￼FIRST WEEK: # 1 – THERE IS NO
￼SUCH THING AS A PERFECT FAMILY
￼# 2 – ONLY FAMILIES THAT LIVE BY
￼GODLY PRINCIPLES SURVIVE AND
￼# 3 - IT DOESN’T TAKE PERFECTION
￼TO MAKE A GREAT FAMILY, BUT IT
￼DOES TAKE WORK
￼SECOND WEEK: we talked about being
￼a WARRIOR for your family
￼#1 – Your Spiritual Life Strengthens or
￼Weakens Every Relationship You Have
￼in the Family
￼# 2 - Your Spiritual Life Impacts Your
￼Integrity in The Home
￼# 3 – Your Spiritual Life Impacts Your
￼Ability to Settle Conflict Within Your
￼LAST WEEK: Building a Family that Will
￼A Family That Will Last Has....
￼Strong Sense of Commitment
￼Message Title: Raising Your Kids the
Notice the word “right” in quotations because right according to whom?
As Christians, we need to see what the Bible says, not necessarily what “others” say.
￼￼“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s
￼discipline, and do not lose heart when
￼he rebukes you, because the Lord
￼disciplines those he loves, and he
￼punishes everyone he accepts as a
￼son.” Endure hardship as discipline;
￼God is treating you as sons. For what
￼son is not disciplined by his father? If
￼you are not disciplined (and everyone
￼undergoes discipline), then you are
￼illegitimate children and not true sons.
￼Moreover, we have all had human
￼fathers who disciplined us and we
￼respected them for it. How much more
￼should we submit to the Father of our
￼spirits and live! Our fathers disciplined
￼us for a little while as they thought best;
￼but God disciplines us for our good, that
￼we may share in his holiness. No
￼discipline seems pleasant at the time,
￼but painful. Later on, however, it
￼produces a harvest of righteousness
￼and peace for those who have been
￼trained by it.
This verse teaches us how God deals with his children. Since we are created in God’s image, it also teaches us about the way earthly parents should discipline their children. Notice this:
We are to study God’s methods in dealing with
us and then use those methods in dealing with our children. As God raises his children, so we are to raise ours.
￼ Discipline is a sign of love. v. 6
￼ Discipline is a sign of sonship. vv. 7-
￼Discipline produces godly fruit. vv.
￼In a sense Hebrews 12 calls us to look
￼to God as the model parent.
￼Godly parenting begins with the
￼study of God—his character, his
￼methods, his ways, and most of all, his
￼Let’s look at 6 biblical principles
￼regarding raising our children.
￼Principle #1: We Should Not Shy
￼Away from this Topic Because of
There is a large, well-organized, well-financed, and well-publicized antispanking movement in America. It is led by psychologists, social workers, and educational leaders who strongly oppose all forms of physical discipline of children.
It has led to something called “child- centered parenting” where parents are instructed to look at their children as friends more than as children needing their direction and guidance.
(See “When to Spank,” US News and World Report, April 13, 1998 for a detailed analysis of the factors that led to the antispanking movement.)
AsIlookbacktothewayIwas raised, it occurs to me that either there was no antispanking movement when I was growing up or my parents definitely didn’t believein it!
It isn’t my purpose to offer a detailed argument in favor of spanking.
I will say that Focus on the Family believes there is a place for mild spanking in the discipline of children ages two to ten.
It’s also fair to say that no one I know believes that spanking should be the major tool parents use to raise their children. If you are spanking your children every day, or almost every
day, then you probably need some instruction in good childrearing methods.
My position is the same as Focus on the Family: Mild spanking has a place in a child’s discipline but it should never be the main tool parents use to motivate their children to obey.
￼Principle #2: Biblical Discipline Must
￼Reflect a Proper Mixture of Law and
God always begins with law and moves to grace. Even in the Garden of Eden, God told Adam not to eat from one particular tree. That’s law.
Later would come words of grace and forgiveness.
When we raise our children, we must start with law. We must give them