Summary: In our pursuit of godly character we must learn to forgive. We must also learn the biblical difference between frogiveness and reconciliation.
Character Counts! Forgiveness Matters
Theme: God?s character requires Him to forgive. Those seeking godly character must learn to forgive.
Purpose: What do I want to happen in the hearer when I preach this sermon?
A. Increased insight. After I preach this sermon, the hearer should be able to discern that forgiveness must be unconditional. We submit to the forgiveness process not for what it does for the offending party but for what it does for our own character.
B. Increased knowledge. After I preach this sermon, the hearer should be able to state that:
1. Forgiveness is a process?it takes times and involves a growth process.
2. The first step is to acknowledge that we have been hurt.
3. Pretending not to need others, or pretending that what others say and do to us does not hurt us is NOT forgiveness.
4. The process of forgiveness involves evaluating the hurt?did it really happen? Did it really happen the way I perceived it?
5. Perhaps the most difficult question, but the most productive to the process, is whether the anger caused is the result of a fresh wound or because the person has brushed up against an old, unhealed wound.
C. Changed attitude. After I preach this sermon, I want the hearer to determine to submit to the process of forgiveness for the sake of his or her own mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
Need to be
Surfaced: We all carry around the weight of unforgiven, unhealed wounds. These are embedded within us ready to erupt at the lightest touch. Unsuspecting brothers and sisters can set us off with little more than a normal, human foible. Such an unhealthy environment makes loving, redemptive, Christian relationships impossible.
be Offered: God commands us to submit to the process of healing forgiveness. We must submit to it regardless of whether or not the offending person is ever reconciled to us, to the church, or to God. We submit because in so doing we are healed and we become a little more like the God we serve.
Introduction. (Get attention, surface need, make a contract to deliver a solution.)
A. Sally was bitten by a dog.
1. She went to the doctor and took the dog with her.
2. The doctor examined her and the dog.
3. ?Bad news Sally. The dog has rabies.?
4. Sally took out a piece of paper and began writing on it.
5. ?Oh no, Sally, we can treat rabies. You don?t have to make out your last will and testament.?
6. ?I?m not,? Sally replied. ?I?m making a list of all the people I?m going to bite!?
B. The burden of unresolved conflict.
a) Lead to deep-seated wounds.
b) Many times these remain unresolved (unhealed) for an entire lifetime.
c) These turn into bitterness, broken relationships, hatred, perhaps even murder.
C. Character Counts! - People of character must not harbor resentment, bitterness, or hatred against others.
1. People of character must submit to the process that leads to true forgiveness.
2. People of character must always allow God to be God.
I. We Must Enter the Process that Leads to True Forgiveness.