Summary: The Big lie: Performance and other people’s opinion of me determine my self worth. I have to perform to a certain level in order to feel good about myself.
Free From False Beliefs- The Big Lie
The Big lie: Performance and other people’s opinion of me determine my self worth.
I have to perform to a certain level in order to feel good about myself. (It seems I never get to that level!)
Consequences: Fear of failure: Perfectionism- withdrawn- manipulation.
Romans 5:1NLT Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us.
Results: Freedom, greater love for Christ.
Secondly, I have to obtain approval from others.
I must have the approval of certain others in order to feel good about myself.
Galatians 1:10NLT Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.
Consequences: Fear of rejection- Please others at any cost- Withdrawal to avoid disapproval- over-sensitive to criticism.
God’s solution: You are totally accepted by God.
Colossians 1:21-22NLT This includes you who were once far away from God. You were his enemies, separated from him by your evil thoughts and actions. 22 Yet now he has reconciled you to himself through the death of Christ in his physical body. As a result, he has brought you into his own presence, and you are holy and blameless as you stand before him without a single fault.
Results of God’s solution: Freedom from fear of rejection- willingness to become open and vulnerable, and able mohave peace. A new desire for God no matter what others think.
Thirdly, The Blame game: Blame others or blame myself.
Those who fail are unworthy and deserve punishment.
Consequences: Fear of punishment, or punishing others. Blaming others leads to a dry Spiritual life.
God’s solution: We are deeply loved by God. We no longer have to fear punishment or punish others.
Results of God’s solution: Patience and kindness towards others, being quick to forgive, while devolving a deep love for Jesus Christ.
Fourthly, Shame: I am what I am and I cannot change.
Consequences: Fear of the future, Hopelessness, destructive habits, Inferiority feelings.
God’s solution: We have been made brand new- According to Colossians 2:10 We have been made complete through Christ.
Fifthly, Condemnation- I’m always guilty- I live with the thoughts, I might go to hell, and because of that, I sure can’t trust Jesus.
Consequences- Trust nothing- Everything is temporal- Faith might not work for me.
The truth: God loves me!
Today’s Text Ephesians 1:3-8NLT All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ. 4 Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. 5 God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. 6 So we praise God for the glorious grace he has poured out on us who belong to his dear Son. 7 He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins. 8 He has showered his kindness on us, along with all wisdom and understanding.