Summary: This is my commandment, love others in the same way that I have loved you - Jesus. Taking cues from Jesus life we find the way that we are to build relationships for life.
Friendship’s Core Value
July 13, 2008
Friendship comes naturally to human beings, because each one of us was created by God, in the image of God, and God is a relational being.
God’s relationship is shown to us many ways. There is the unity of the TriUne God, Father, Son & Holy Spirit.
There is God’s desire to have relationship with us.
There is the relationship that Jesus has with his church. The bible likens this relationship to a marriage.
Relationships are a natural part of life, but that doesn’t mean that they will always be easy to maintain.
There are many different strategies and values for having strong relationships in life, and the relationships that we are talking about today are the ones that you have with other people. So there are many different methods and ideas to what makes a good friendship.
I like what Jesus says about friendship in John 15. In fact, I think that this statement that he gives to his disciples and to Christians all over the world, is a statement that outlines a core value of friendship.
Listen to the words of Jesus…
"This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me. You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name. This is my command: Love each other." (John 15:12-17, NLT)
When I read this passage, there is one sentence that really stands out to me.
“This is my commandment, love each other in the same way that I have loved you” – Jesus
Jesus is saying that the core value of friendship is love, and that by looking at the way that he lived his life, we can follow his lead and develop Godly, life giving, awesome relationships.
Before we look at Jesus’ life, lets focus on the 4th word in that sentence. “This is my COMMANDMENT”.
What is a command, for one thing it is not optional. It is something that you do in obedience. It is not something that you get to make your own decision on. If Jesus is the King of your life, then you obey his command.
This is my commandment, love each other in the same way that I have loved you.
Prayer - OK Jesus, we will do what you have commanded us to do. Show us from the Bible how we can model our relationships after the pattern that you set for us.
Jesus’ love is not Blind
Jesus has this amazing ability to show a great deal of love without compromising his values and beliefs. He can love you when you are at your very worse, but he would never pretend like nothing was wrong.
In John 4 Jesus has a seemingly spontaneous meeting with a woman at a Samaritan well. He arrives thirsty, and so Jesus asks this lady for a drink of water.
The fact that Jesus was even talking to her took this lady for a loop. By talking to her, Jesus was breaking tradition and custom.