Summary: How we can have a happy and healthy home?
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George Bernard Shaw, “A happy family is but an earlier heaven.”
There’s no place like home when it is happy and healthy. The devil’s plan for family is to make life miserable and destroy people by splitting families. God’s plan for family is to help us build a happy and a sustainable relationship which can be our strength, a fortress in this world.
Proverbs 14:26 Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge.
Most of us have a family in Bangalore. If you are single, one day you will be a family. This morning if you don’t have a family, we want you to know that this church is your family.
Therefore, let see from the Bible how we can have a happy and healthy home?
We must understand that having a family is natural. It is natural that a boy and girl get married, children are born and so is a family. However, maintaining that relationship is the key. It takes effort to keep up the love than getting it. It takes work to keep the home atmosphere without diluting and polluting. And guess what, God is there to help us with this.
In this era where family roles and structure has changed drastically, the Bible still has solution to have a healthy and happy family.
Let’s open our Bibles to Psalm 127. It is believed that this Psalm was written by David to his son Solomon. David gives his son 4 things God can do for any family who turns to Him.
I. God can help me build my family.
Psalm 127:1 Unless the Lord builds the house the builders labour in vain. David isn’t talking about constructing a shelter or structure. He’s talking about establishing a family. In other words, if you want a home that will last and survive, then you’d better turn to the master home-builder: God Himself. God can help you build your family.
God formed the first family and told them to be fruitful and multiply. God instituted the family. He knows what will work and what doesn’t work. He can help fix whatever problem your family encounters.
Illustration: One day a couple was driving and they came across a youngster whose Ford model card had broken down. The couple stopped and the husband asked if he could take a look at the car. In just a few minutes, he had the car running. The youngster was amazed and said, “I’m impressed with your knowledge of cars, and I’m amazed that you fixed it so easily.” The man said, “I’m the one who designed it this car, I am Henry Ford.”
Dear people, that’s how it is with God and the family. God says, “I can fix it because I designed it!”
Somebody says, “Pastor, that’s nice to know but tell me how God can help me build my family?” God isn’t going to automatically transform us into a great family. God gives us the necessary instructions in the Bible and says, “Here’s what you need. Get to work. I’ll help you every step of the way.”
Principles of building a godly family.
1. Husband and wife.
a. Mutual Submission.
Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Mutual subjection is a goal for both partners; however, in the marriage relationship God calls the woman to take the first step by having a submissive attitude towards her husband.
b. Mutual Love.
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Ephesians 5:28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Husband, what your wife need is love. In the marriage relationship God calls the husband to take the first step by having a loving heart towards his wife. As Christ is the head of church, husband is the head of the wife. What did Christ do? He first loved us.
Husbands are to pour out His love in abundance upon their wives. The more a husband loves his wife, the more the wife submits to her husband.
c. Mutual Respect.
Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Sister, what your husband needs is respect.
2. Parents train your children.
Proverbs 22:6 Start off your children in the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 6These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.