Summary: This is the sermon I preached last 15th of March 2013, during the wedding of Michael and Allen at Filipino International Christian Church, United Arab Emirates.
God’s Ideal in Marriage
Genesis 2:18-25 (NIV)
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.
20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.
22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
Marriage is not man’s invention, it is God’s idea. So let’s go back to the Bible, the instruction book and find out what God has to say about His creation. In chapter 2 we have what the scholars call a reference point. This is the first place were marriage is mentioned in the Bible. We must understand what is said in the passages that follow.
I. IT IS NOT GOOD FOR A MAN TO BE ALONE. V18.
A. Before we discuss this, I want you to notice something.
I. In Gen. 1:31 says, God saw all that He made was very good.
ii. But in 2:18 we find for the very first time that God sees something that is not good..
iii. (Not good for a man to be alone).
Application: Brother Michael responded to what God had said and married Sister Allen.
Aloneness is loneliness.
“God’s antidote for loneliness is companionship and God’s model for companionship is marriage.”
B. Before I got married I was lonely.
During that moment of loneliness I took a pen and wrote, “ When I am alone and feeling blue, it cheers me up to think of you. I would rather live in the solitary place than the most peopled place without you. “
When we are in loved we become poetic.”
There was a guy who seemed to be poetic while courting a girl. He said to the girl, “If you answer my proposal I will pick the stars in the sky and give to you. But the girl in her curiosity asked, “ How about the Sun and Moon?” The guy responded by saying, “ I could not promise them to you because I gave them already to somebody else. “
C. It is good for me because I had Eve ( is the nickname of my wife Evelyn) during the time of loneliness, but for Adam there was none. So he consoled himself by walking around and naming all the animals in the field, the birds of the air and the fish in the lake.
D.As he walked he said, “you look like a donkey, I will call you a donkey.” You look like a hippopotamus, “I will call you a Hippopotamus.” You look like a monkey, “I will call you a monkey.”
Adam spends all day walking around naming animals, birds and fish. Then Adam goes home to rest. As he rests, he watches:
i. Mr. and Mrs. Robin build their nest.
ii. Mr. and Mrs. Monkey settling for the night.
iii. And the fish spawning in the lake.
iv. Everyone has partner but Adam was alone.
V20 For Adam no suitable helper was found. “ I like the adjective suitable- meaning equal or adequate.” I believe that none among you is a suitable partner for me. That is the reason why my wife Evelyn was given to me by God because she is suitable for me.
Those animals could be of great help to Adam.
a) If he does not want to walk, he could grab the Horse.
b) He can employ the Ox to plow the field.
c) If hungry he could milk the cow to quench his thirst. But none of them can satisfy the longing of his heart.
How I pray that you sister Allen will become the suitable partner to Brother Michael.
After a FAMILY LIFE CONFERENCE a man came to the preacher and said, “My wife is not a helper but a botheration.” The Preacher said, “God did not create a botheration but a helper. It depends only on your attitude toward the person whom God has given you.