Summary: I suggest that we need to go back to the blueprint & read again the words of the architect who designed marriage in the first place, & find out what He has to say about it. (*PowerPoint Available - #261)
MELVIN M. NEWLAND, MINISTER
CENTRAL CHRISTIAN, BROWNSVILLE, TX
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ILL. A Hollywood actor who was famous for his romantic roles was once asked the question, "What makes a great lover?"
I am sure that the listeners expected him to answer with a typical playboy-macho response. But he surprised almost everyone when he answered, "A great lover is a man who can satisfy one woman all of his life, & who can be satisfied by one woman all of his life. A great lover is not one who goes from woman to woman - any dog can do that."
However, many of our magazines, movies, & TV programs are proclaiming a very different message. They say that marriage is repressive & degrading for women & that we need alternatives that are in step with our modern age.
ILL. Universities even offer courses on "alternatives to marriage" that proclaim, "The concept of traditional marriage & traditional family ties are antiquated. So we must form relationships that are more in step with our times."
Is that really true? I suggest that we need to go back to the blueprint & read again the words of the architect who designed marriage in the first place, & find out what He has to say about it.
Turn with me to Genesis 4-5 as we consider 4 words that help us to see the guidelines which God has given for a successful marriage.
"For this reason a man will leave his father & mother & be united to his wife, & they will become one flesh. The man & his wife were both naked, & they felt no shame."
What is God telling us through Moses? Now realize that this passage of scripture was not written for Adam & Eve, but it was written after marriage had been tried & failed quite a few times. So God reveals to Moses these guidelines that apply to all marriages.
First of all, there must be a severance - "For this reason a man will leave his father & mother..." There must be a leaving of the father & the mother. There must be a leaving of the old home - the old family ties - the old securities - the old protection - the old financial dependence upon mother & father - & the beginning of a new home.
Of course, that doesn’t mean to ignore mom & dad - never call them up - never go home for a meal again.
In fact, it has been my observation that after marriage home often becomes more sacred than it was before - that the ties between parent & child are even more precious than they were before - but in a different way.
But there needs to be a severing that takes place.
A. I honestly believe that these words were given, not just for the benefit of the bride & groom, but probably more for the mother & father of the bride & groom. I am convinced that it is often a lot more difficult for the parents to sever the ties than it is for the bride & groom.
ILL. In most wedding services the father of the bride is asked, "Who gives this woman to be married to this man?" And he answers, "Her mother & I do."