Summary: If you are not living a totally blessed life it may be because you are not fully obeying God’s commands to honor your parents. If you feel that you may be one of these, forgiveness, grace and strength is yours for the asking.
Honor Your Father and Your Mother
Some of us have a harder time feeling like honoring our parents because of past and present abuses. Yet, God did not make a mistake in giving us the parents we have. Evidence of that is giving by the truth in Psalm 139:
"You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body, and knit them together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!.......You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion! You saw me before I was born andscheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your Book! How precious it is, Lord, to realize that you are thinking about me constantly! I can’t even count how many times a day your thoughts turn towards me. And when I waken in the morning, you are still thinking of me!"
With that truth I can thank God for my parents, but particularly for my Dad. Because of the sovereignty of God, He gave me a choleric father who is very demanding, authoritative and dictatorial. I have learned that adult children are not asked to be subservient to domineering parents. We are not expected to or commanded to disobey God to obey parents. Our responsibility is to honor our parents which means to respect and to love. Recently, I honored my Dad by showing respect, love and service as well as witness of the salvation found in the saving faith in the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and God blessed me in many wonderful ways.
Now I can understand, accept and fully obey the command that comes from Ephesians 6:1-3:
"Children, obey your parents; this is the right thing to do because GOD has placed them in authority over you. Honor your father and mother. This is the first of God’s Ten Command-ments that ends with a promise. And this is the promise: that if you
honor your father and mother, yours will be a LONG life, full of blessing." (Ephesians 6:1-3 Living)
When you look up the Hebrew meaning for the word "LONG" you will find that it is defined as meaning:
Rectitude...straight, honest, upright and true...
And when we see what the word "honor" means, we find that it is the same word used by Jesus in John 8:49 when he said he honored His Father:
to prize, value, revere, respect and love
We need to remember the first command that guarantees a promise of blessings. If we can’t obey thefirst commandment given to us as children, how will we ever obey the rest? God’s commands are for us good spiritually, emotionally, socially, mentally, economically and physically as well as in every other dimension of life. He wants to bless us so we can be a blessing to others.
Honor: Show me the man you honor and I will know what kind of man you are.
Was this going to be easy? Absolutely not! I questioned God: How could I forgive, prize, value and revere someone like my father. The Lord spoke to me, "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." (Rom. 12:21)
God said to me, In the way I forgive you you are also to forgive and put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with one another, forgive one another just as Christ has forgiven you for the greater glory of God. (Eph. 4:28-32) You can do all things through the strength, love, power, wisdom, enablement, enlightenment, empowering, equipping, and enriching that I give you through my word and Spirit.