Summary: Living on Mission in a Foreign Land Husbands and Wives, part 2 Loving Wives and Answered Prayer
Living on Mission in a Foreign Land
Husbands and Wives, part 2
Loving Wives and Answered Prayer
We are in our second mini-series in 1 Peter, “Living on Mission in a Foreign Land,” based on 1 Peter 2.11-4.11. In this section Peter connects the way we live to the mission of Christ, making disciples. Peter tells us that 'God has called us out of darkness into his marvelous light to proclaim His excellencies.' We started chapter 3 last week, looking at what Peter says to wives and this week we are looking at what he says to Husbands.
Passage Overview – In chapter two, verse eighteen, Peter began to tell us to submit to those in authority over us, even if it means to suffer unjustly, starting with the government, then moving to masters, and then husbands. He puts forth Christ as both the pattern and the power for unjust suffering. Christ paid for our sins on the cross so that we might experience the power of the gospel by faith not only to save us but also to sustain us through suffering by the ever present supply of both grace and peace. Last week we saw that wives are to submit to their husbands as the God given authority in the marriage and to focus their energy on the internal qualities that are precious to God with the goal of winning non-believing husbands to Christ. Now he tells husbands to love and honor their wives as co-heirs of salvation so that their prayer is fruitful.
Big Idea – Husbands love and honor their wives as co-heirs of salvation so that their prayers are effective/fruitful.
Husbands Lead by Loving Their Wives
'Likewise husbands live with your wives in an understanding way, literally, “accord to knowledge.”' He tells husbands to take responsibility and leadership in the marriage relationship. Don't let your wives always be the one to say, 'will you talk to me; will you pray with me; will you disciple the kids'. My immediate question is knowledge of what? I think it means that a husbands knowledge of God and his purposes for marriage will lead to husbands living with their wives in a way that meets their greatest need in life, being loved by their husbands as Christ loves the church.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
I want to make two points from this passage. First, husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ demonstrated his love three ways - by humbling himself to become a man; by living an obedient life; and then by willingly suffering and dying at the hands of evil men to meet our greatest need. Second, this act of love guaranteed that the church will be presented to Christ in splendor, holy and blameless. Husbands are to love their wives in this same way Christ loves the church. First, this means you love your wife by setting the example for her in humility, obedience, and suffering. Husbands, are you leading your wives in obedience, humility, and suffering? Second, husbands, your serving your wife in this way is the means God uses to sanctify your wife and present her before God in splendor, holy and blameless. What are you doing to encourage her faith? To encourage her to serve others, reach out to the lost, or use her gifts? If I asked her, what would she say?