Summary: Memorial/Funeral Service for a miscarried baby.
“I Know That Face!”
Memorial Service for a Miscarried Child
Today family and friends gather to grieve with and support Melissa and Robert. For them the excitement of a long awaited pregnancy has come to a terrible, unexpected and painful end. In a time like this, we are cut to the very deepest parts of our souls. We are overwhelmed with emotion, with grief, doubts, anger and questions. “How could God let this happen?” “Why did it happen to us?” Those are questions for which there are few, if any answers.
I will not insult you by claiming to know what you are going through today. But I have suffered the sudden unexpected loss of my closest family member. In those days, I learned something that I want to share with you today. I learned that it’s OK to be confused, angry, and sad. I learned that God is sensitive to our pain and allows us, even desires us to express our emotions to Him.
In those days, I was drawn to one passage of Scripture that I would like to share with you today, because it just met me right where I was. These words were written by King David, and are found in Psalm 139:1-18.
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I especially want you to hear the words of David from verses 13-16. “You created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb…My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body.”
While this baby was never seen by us, He was seen by God. While his frame was hidden from us, he was not hidden from God. Even while his body was unformed, God knew him.
Verse 16 was especially important to me when my brother died. It reads “All the days ordained for me were written in your book before I lived the first one.” We often see death as untimely, or early – but God is in control. We are surprised, He is not. We grieve the loss, but heaven welcomes him home.
It may be surprising to you to know that King David, who wrote these words, also lost a baby. In the moments after that loss, David found comfort in knowing, “I can not bring him back to me, but I will one day go to him.” David rested in the knowledge that his little boy was with God, and he would be with him one day. Jesus promised that he was preparing a place for those who love Him, and He said, “Let the little children come to me, for the kingdom of Heaven is made up of little ones like these.” And He placed his hands on them and blessed them.
Your little, unseen, unformed, hidden baby is now one who makes up the citizenry of heaven. He has been welcomed into the arms of Jesus – and I don’t say these word figuratively – I mean them literally! I have no doubt in my mind that He has been embraced in the warmth, love and protection of Jesus Christ. His pierced hands rest on your child’s shoulder, tussle his hair, welcome him home.
In the last movie of the Lord of the Rings trilogy “The Return of the King,” there is a scene where a man is dying of his wounds, and his daughter runs to his side. As she places her face over his, he fixes his eyes on her, and in the midst of his shock and pain, his bearded face breaks into a smile, his eyes brighten, and he says, “I know that face!” He experiences great joy at the appearing of his child.