Summary: "Of all the commandments, which is the most important?" Jesus replied, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’" (Mark 12:28
Jesus loved His disciples and they loved Him with unmitigated affection. The Lord knew how to build relationships with the twelve apostles through intimate communications, sharing of their resources and developing trust in the process of building Christ’s church. The disciples were so committed to Jesus as a friend that they all laid down their lives for Him. Perhaps the secret of Christ’s successful friendships lay in shared goal of doing the will of the heavenly Father through the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said, "My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." (John 15:12)
1. Jesus knew how to win the trust, confidence and love from His disciples because He chose men who were committed to the goals of the heavenly Father. If you really want to have close relationships, base them around mutual goals of giving God glory through the planting and growing of His church in all respects
2. Jesus spent leisure and ministry time with the disciples so they could have a transparent relationship. Since the Lord had nothing to hide, He was willing to let the disciples see Him on a 24 hour day basis.
3. Jesus impressed even Simon the Pharisee when He was willing to go to his house and dine with him. Christ’s willingness to meet people on their home court proved to be a most effective teaching lab.
4. Jesus frequented cultural celebrations like weddings to demonstrate His concern for healthy human relationships. When Jesus graced a wedding He always added something memorable to the occasion with His miracles, His teaching or His service.
5. Jesus demonstrated great patience, tolerance and forbearance with the disciples who were slow to learn important lessons. When Jesus approached the disciples on the shores of the sea of Galilee He began with a practical concern for what they were doing. He said, "Friends, haven’t you any fish?" They answered, "No." He said, "Throw your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some." When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish. Immediately, Peter said, "It is the Lord!" (John 21:5-7) People often remember us for what we have done to meet their needs.
6. Jesus refused to give up on His friends. He asked Peter three time if he loved Him. Each time Peter meekly said, "Lord you know that I have a brotherly affection for you (he could not bring himself to say that he agaped – loved Jesus in the sense that Jesus loved him)." (John 21:15-17)
7. Jesus proved His loved by giving important ministries to His friends. He said to Peter, "If you love me, feed my sheep." (John 21:17) When we really love people we will involve them in ministries that help them make a significant contribution to the cause of Christ. Real friendships go beyond human values.
8. Jesus refused to allow Peter to compare his friendship with that of John. Peter saw John and said, "Lord, what about John?" (Is he also going to have to follow you in a similarly painful death as He had suggested Peter would have to suffer) Instead, of getting into comparative explanations, Jesus said to Peter, "If I want John to remain until I return, what is that to you? (That is really not your business Peter). You must follow me!" (Do not base your relationship with God upon what He decides to do with a brother or sister) (John 21:18-22) Leave all the judging, directions and developments of all relationships to the Lord.