Summary: Helping Married folks adjust to and enjoy their marriage
LEAVE, CLEAVE & WEAVE
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Gen. 2:24
The marriage union is likened to the relationship between Jesus and the Church – Eph. 5:31. It is therefore the greatest level of relationship between two human beings (male and female). Principles upon which a strong marriage is built or established will by extension lead to fulfilment in every relationship that involves humans.
For the purpose of this study we will consider these principles primarily in the marriage relationship – Gen. 2:24; Eph. 5:31; Matt. 19; Mk. 10.
“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was out of Man.” – Gen. 2:23; Eph. 5:30
Being one flesh has to do with complete agreement/identification. We (both parties) are no longer two but one. This is the ultimate goal of every relationship – Ps. 133:1.
Unity joke – “To-get-her-ness”
It carries the greatest power that can be demonstrated by the couple – power that is beyond the addition of the best that both parties can give individually – Lev. 26:5-8; Matt. 18:19; Deut. 32:30. Power of agreement Multiplication principle.
To accomplish this God says LEAVE. You cannot cleave until you leave
Leave (Azah – Heb) – To relinquish; loosen (i.e. at the naval string); forsake
Leave (Kataleipo – Gk) – To abandon; leave behind; have remaining
Leave father and mother.
Father – the principal or chief thing (person) in your life
Mother – the bond of family
You have to leave the general mindsets that you derived from your previous carnal bonds.
It doesn’t mean to despise them – Eph. 6:4.
Look at Jesus’ attitude towards his physical family while in ministry – Matt. 12:46-50; Mk. 10:35ff. He generally put the situation in proper perspective.
This is the balance between the Western and Eastern traditions regarding relationships. Remember this was said in the context of people who had no physical parents.
• The statement was made not to solve problems in marriage but to prevent them –
Gen. 2:24-25. This is to help and strengthen us.
• You have to leave your father and mother in order to cleave to your wife. Your spouse is neither of your parents. This is a new relationship. You have to find (Prov. 18:22) and develop this new identity by cleaving.
To leave also means to fortify (strengthen) and to help.
Cleave – (Dabag – Heb) – To adhere; catch by pursuit; pursue hard; to be found; to stick to; to follow close
Cleave – (Proskallao – Gk) – To glue to; to join
Make your spouse the principal or chief person (your father) in your life and also the main bond of your family (your mother).
In Scripture we are asked to cleave to two (2) people – God and our spouse.
Mal. 2:14ff – This speaks of total commitment to your spouse.
Deut. 11:22; Acts 11:23; Jos. 22:5; 23:8 – These teach us to cleave to God.
Proper cleaving automatically leads to weaving.
Weave – (Arag – Heb) – Plait; braid; a shuttle beam.
It is designed to develop and strengthen us.