Summary: No one in their right mind enjoys pain and hardship, but do they hold a redeptive purpose?
--Nietzche said, "Whatever doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger."
--Illus: Kia Jurgenson was a student at a Christian University. A gifted high school basketball player (she was all state), she received a full-ride scholarship and started as a freshmen on the University team. During those college years, Jurgenson contracted a virulent form of meningitis with the result being that to save her life, the Drs had to amputate both of her legs and most of her right hand. Needless to say, basketball is out. Life has been unfair and cruel to her. Nevertheless, after a lengthy and arduous rehab, she was back at school the following fall. And you can just imagine what it was like when at a chapel service, she stepped up on the stage and up to the podium (on her prosthetic limbs) and thanked all the people for their prayers and support, but most of all God for his steadfast love. Amazing, isn’t it?
--Whatever doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger. Does adversity make us stronger? Should it?
--One unfortunate in dealing with our first text (Rom. 8:28-30) is that we are almost too familiar with it. It is used and cited all most too often and regularly in just about any and every context. As a result, it has become almost cliche.
--And because it is so often used, it is very often misused. You ask how so? It can become a religious ’happy pill.’ You ask, ’what exactly do you mean?’ We used pills to take away pain, give brief respite, even provide a momentary euphoria. Sometimes they are needed and helpful, but all too often they become crutches. Why? Because the peace, respite and euphoria are temporary and fleeting.
--I’ll be you’ve seen it; I know I have. Someone hurting or in hardship will have a well-meaning person apporach them and try to soothe them with those words, "well, you know, ’all things work together for good...’" Their attempt all too often fails miserably. Why? They are words. They don’t provide the real relief. In fact, sometimes they actually make us feel guilty about our pain.
--Let’s say this for the record. Tragedy is not good. It is not good when a child dies, a marriage ends, when cancer hits, when you lose a job or have a financial crisis. These things aren’t ’good.’
--Furthermore, we do people and faith a disservice when we attempt to nullify very real pain and heartache. We can even take matters a step further. This nullify/denial route is almost a knee-jerk reaction~~even from the actual sufferers.
--Illust: A preacher friend of mine tells me about a time when he and his wife lost the baby she was carrying. Miscarriage is always tragic, especially when you had hopes and dreams for that child. The result of this tragedy was that, in his own words, he was simply going thru the motions. As a minister, it took all his strenght to simply walk almost aimlessly. In talking to an older mentor about his experience, the older minister told him, "Sounds like you are mad at God, and I think you should tell him." At first, it sounded unorthodox, maybe even blasphemous. But he trusted his mentor, so he (again in his own words) ’just poured out his soul and let God have it.’ The result? A catharsis that helped him turn a huge corner. For the first time, he was honest with God about his doubt, fear, anger, and bewilderment. From this honesty sprang hope and faith. The scary part? It didn’t come naturally. He almost had to ’get permission’ to do what he did.