Summary: This is the 1st study in the study "Itimacy". (A study in the Song of Solomon.) This study looks at physical attraction in dating and marriage.
LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT?
In the Old Testament there are two books that never mention God in the entire text. These books are the Book of Esther, which is a story of the redemption of God’s people; and the Song of Solomon. Not only does the Song of Solomon not refer to God but this book does not refer to prayer or worship either. So why is this book in the Bible?
We need to remember that the Bible not only describes who God is and what God does but it also tells us what God wants for His people. This book of the Bible gives us an example of how God created man and woman to live in happiness. God created us as sexual beings. He made male and female distinct and different biologically and psychologically. Now God did create us spiritually identical. This is what makes men and women equal before God. God ordained marriage from the beginning of creation. As Genesis tells us, two become one. The process of two becoming one is not the marriage ceremony but begins when a man and woman become one through sex. Notice that this is when the process of two becoming one begins. The entire marriage is the process of two becoming one every day. That is why sex outside of marriage is sinful. It destroys the oneness of the married couple.
Because of the explicit sexual language that is used in this book, Jewish teachers did not allow men to read this book until they were thirty years old and women were not allowed to read it at all. We cannot ignore the sexual content of this book because it just proves that sex in the marriage relationship is a good thing not a “nasty” or perverted thing.
Let’s begin our intimate journey through the Song of Songs.
In our first study we find a Shulamite woman expressing her desire to be with King Solomon. This woman was physically attracted to Solomon. If you are married, as you study this passage try to remember what attracted you to your spouse. If you are unmarried, ask yourself, “What am I looking for in a potential spouse as I date?”
Meet The Writer
It is interesting that God would use Solomon to write this love filled, sexually explicit book in the Bible. As told in 2 Samuel 12:24-25, Solomon was the second child of David and Bathsheba. Their first child was conceived in an adulteress relationship and that child died. The Bible says that God loved Solomon. Solomon was King of Israel and built a temple to God. Solomon was given great wisdom by God and was the wisest man on the earth. Although Solomon was very wise he disobeyed God and took many foreign women as his wives. 1 Kings 11:3 tells us that Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines and his wives led him astray.
This “womanizer” was the writer of this love song. Many have wondered if Solomon had all of these wives and concubines when he wrote the Song Of Songs. What do you think?
Song of Solomon 1:1-3(NKJV)
1 The song of songs, which is Solomon’s.
2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth- For your love is better than wine.
3 Because of the fragrance of your good ointments, Your name is ointment poured forth; Therefore the virgins love you.
Song of Songs 1:1-3(Message)
The Song- best of all songs- Solomon’s song!
Kiss me- full on the mouth! Yes! For your love is better than wine, headier than your aromatic oils. The syllables of your name murmur like a meadow brook. No wonder everyone loves to say your name!
The woman has seen Solomon and she is dreaming and thinking of what it would be like to be with him. She was fantasizing about how wonderful it would be to be with him and maybe become his wife. Have you ever “dreamed” of someone? Culturally men are usually the ones that are scolded for thinking about what it would be like to be with a particular woman, but women do the same thing concerning men. Is it acceptable for a person to think about another person in this manner? Remember that if you look upon someone and think about having sex with them that is the same as having done it. That means that it is acceptable to think about someone and look forward to their touch, but this “dreaming” of someone is not to be sexual in nature. Now don’t forget I am talking about people who are not married or about married people “dreaming” of someone other than their spouse, not about spouses thinking sexually about one another. Physiologically, the brain is the most active sexual organ in the human body. Be careful to control your thoughts. The devil is a master at putting something in front of your eyes that is attractive because he knows that many times we will start thinking about that person in the wrong way. Once the person begins to start thinking about something over and over again, it becomes easier for them to act upon those thoughts. If you don’t believe this is a strategic plan of Satan’s, read about the fall of mankind when Eve saw the fruit and it looked good. It was not very long before Adam and Eve were eating that forbidden fruit.