Summary: Fourth in a series on anger managment
“Managing Anger God’s Way” Pt 4
Anger is an automatic
inner mental/emotional stirring
that empowers me to respond to perceived or actual events, people or circumstances
perceived as wrong, evil or threatening to my well being.
There is Spirit-generated anger and flesh-generated anger. God-centered and self-centered anger.
Spirit-generated anger accomplishes eternal purposes and should be recognized and directed.
Flesh-generated anger does not and should be refused and defused.
I. COMPREHEND ANGER
A. Understand the basic character of anger
Anger is an inner mental/emotional power surge that readies us to respond to evil. At its core, it is morally neutral. It can lead to good or evil.
B. Pinpoint the purpose of anger
The purpose of anger is to alert us and empower us to address evil; either evil lurking in our life or evil operating in the world around us. Anger motivates us to respond decisively and righteously against evil.
C. Discover the cause of anger
Anger arises out of personal beliefs, expectations and perceptions. Anger stirs when I perceive a violation of those beliefs, core values or expectations. The key to managing anger centers in our thinking. Renew your thinking – manage your anger. Anger will either be triggered by a fleshly thought process or a godly thought process. When our thinking is godly, anger becomes a godly tool that can be directed for godly purposes.
D. Consider the consequences of fleshly anger
E. Follow the course of anger (circle of emotion)
1. Anger begins in the soul (beliefs, expectations, perceptions)
2. Anger is automatically triggered by an event
perceived as evil, hurtful or threatening
3. Anger requires strategic personal reflection and evaluation
4. Anger prompts a chosen response or action
F. Address the soul issues that stir and intensify anger’s manifestation
Certain unaddressed issues in our life will stir or at least intensify angry thought and emotions.
1. Unaddressed Sin -- Guilt
2. Doubt / Fear / Independence
3. Self-centered focus
4. Bitterness / Unforgiveness
5. Demonic Strongholds
6. Old Ruts or Patterns of response
G. Consider the conduct (expression) of anger
The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things. Prov 15:28
What do we do with our angry thoughts and emotions? We must do something about the emotional red light.
Never healthy to deny them. “I’m not angry!”
Never healthy to bury them or internalize them. “I shouldn’t be angry!”
Never healthy to express them without a godly purpose.
Expressions of anger are either active aggressive or passive aggressive. One is obvious and overt. The other is not so obvious and covert. Flesh-generated angers seek to punish, control or avoid the “evil doer” in some way.
Self-centered anger manifests in a variety of ways.
Biting tone or edge
Physical or emotional withdrawal