Summary: We are a long ways from the days of "Leave it to Beaver"and "The Brady Bunch"! What does God have to say to the "Modern Family"?
Modern Family Pt. 2 – Treasure Hunters
The Brady Bunch has left the building. The little house we live in no longer resembles the one on the prairie! We have moved from “Father Knows Best” to we aren’t sure daddy knows anything! The day we live is different. The climate has changed. This modern age has impacted and shaped our families. If we are not careful this modern age will even try to redefine family. We will never be able to go back to yesterday. We must learn to deal with today and tomorrow. However, even though we are in the modern age I believe there is still some old truths that modern family's need today.
So last week I told you:
Marriage matters to God and more specifically your marriage matters to Him. Not only did He institute the first marriage He was and is involved in yours right now.
Happily ever after doesn't have to be a fairy tale but does require hard and consistent work. You don't stumble into a perfect marriage or family. A bad marriage or family only becomes a good marriage/family with work. A good marriage/family only becomes a great marriage/family with work!
If we are not careful we give our marriages away.
God can give us our marriage/family back! A damaged marriage/family doesn't have to equate to a doomed marriage/family. God still has the ability to bind up the broken and turn hopeless situations
So today I want us to look at something we need to learn that modern families have forgotten/ignored and since we have failed to grasp this truth we struggle and fail to succeed in relationships!
Matthew 13:44 The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.
Ephesians 6:2-3 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
1 Peter 3:7 The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground.
1. To get treasure you have to dig through dirt!
There is no treasure without dirt.
Want you to notice that the man who found the treasure in the field didn’t just purchase the treasure. He purchased the whole field in order to obtain the treasure! If you aren’t willing to deal with the field quit trying to get the treasure! This one principle will save you a broken heart. If a person isn't willing to deal with your dirt, then why do you keep giving them access to your treasure?
Modern families understand that we are called to be and must be excavators. To get to the treasure that resides in your spouse and in your kids you have to dig through the dirt! You are going to have to get your hands dirty!
You have to purchase the whole field to get it. You have to deal with the ugly. You have to deal with the pain. You have to deal with the tough days.
Some of us never experience the treasure of your spouse or your kids because you are unwilling to deal with their field. We must become people who can handle dirt and not become sidetracked or deterred by the dirt! Some of you aren’t willing to do the hard work of digging for treasure.
This passage speaks to understanding worth! You have to make up your mind that the treasure is worth it! If you sell the treasure short, undervalue it, you won’t do the hard work of digging it out. The field will deter you and cause you to miss treasure!
Is the counseling worth it? It is if the treasure is worth it! Is the pain worth it? It is if you keep your eye on the treasure! Our problem is we want the treasure minus the dirt! Is it worth it to not say what you want to say? That depends if saying what you want to say is more important than getting treasure!
You have to buy the whole field in order to get to the treasure! You have to get all of them to get the best of them! You can tell those who aren’t willing to work on their family because instead of moving the dirt you are moved by their dirt and you run away!
We want our spouse to be perfect and they aren't. I married him because I thought he was my knight in shining armor or she was my fairy tell princess. Well they were a knight or a princess but they were covered by dirt and you have to dig through the dirt and see the knight/prince buried in the dirt o get to it!